maybe the point isn't to become so wise and stoic that nothing ever hurts your feelings. maybe it's to become secure enough that you can feel the sting, laugh at yourself a little, learn what you need to learn, and keep your heart open anyway.
Just keep pivoting till you find where you want to be. many people rush life. They throw themselves into a specific box, then stay there. Motion is the privilege that the living have. Be many things at the same time. Or be nothing, for a time. Simmer in life, marinate, grow.
You’ve got to get experience and build your ability to maneuver brick by brick. It’s not a class you can skip, or have someone else sign for you. So when you pause certain aspects of your life to apparently ‘get your life together’ you do yourself more harm than good.