this old lady just said to me “growth is realizing that someone’s inconsistency is a sign to step back, not a challenge to prove your worth” and i think y’all need to engrave this into your soul.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but date someone who actually follows through. Bc we live in a world obsessed with beginnings. There’s a diff between someone who promises with emotion & someone who shows up in practice. Many of us confuse effort with energy. Let me explain..
After a breakup, don’t romanticize the past. Remember the disrespect, the anxiety, the toxicity. You didn’t leave because of a lack of love—you left because it hurt more than it healed. Don’t forget that..!
I wish more ppl understood this: When someone says, “I’m not ready for a relationship,” but allows intimacy & attention they aren’t setting boundaries…They’re saying: “You don’t get commitment, but I still get your energy.” This is economy of emotional control. Let me explain…
Emphasis on “regardless of what they tell you”. Bc words are cheap when they cost nothing to prove. Feelings mean nothing, it’s what they’re willing to do with those feelings. You can love someone deeply & still be a coward when it comes to showing up for them. Let me explain;