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øur flaws are what makes us perfect

[Toronto Marlies @TorontoMarlies]

NEW PERSONALITY UNLOCKED 🔓

THE TORONTO MARLIES ARE YOUR 2026 CALDER CUP CHAMPIONS!!! 🏆

[tara @_tmallory]

@lucas__tano Okay but Ben’s idol play in HHH to get him to the end was also v impressive

[tara @_tmallory]

@cynthiaruth95 Okay but do we think we’ll get an impersonator photo for the inspired songs on the deluxe?? Cause that would make us spoiled but would also be so iconic #TGIDELUXE

[tara @_tmallory]

@IZGlRLS Not Christian being like I would have loved to have been there 😩😢 Brutal exit last week imo

[positivity moon @arrtnem]

There is this lie we all secretly believed :
if a friendship is real, it will always feel like it does right now.

You remember that version. Three hour calls about nothing. Replying in 0.3 seconds. Seeing a meme and sending it to five people because all of you were permanently online. You could tell who was upset by the way they typed “lol.” You knew their class schedule, their crush rotation, their favorite cereal. Friendship felt like constant contact.

Then somehow one day it does not.

Now your closest friend might reply two days later with “sorry just seeing this.” You stare at that sentence with a small sting, even though you wrote the same thing to somebody else last week. They cancel plans because they are exhausted in a way that has nothing to do with sleep. You reschedule and then you cancel. Whole months pass in voice notes and “we need to catch up soon” and screenshots of flights you might take someday.

It starts to feel like being quietly broken up with in slow motion.

Nobody warns you how much admin adulthood stacks on top of love. Rent, sick parents, work that bleeds past office hours, kids, therapy, bodies that suddenly need more maintenance, nervous systems that finally crack after ten years of pretending to be fine. Everyone is trying to be a decent partner, decent coworker, decent child, decent human in a world that feels like a rolling crisis. Of course the part of you that once had energy to send 17 updates a day is tired.

Less communication is not automatically less love.
But it is a different shape of love, and that is the part that hurts.

Because the scared part of you still keeps score like a 16 year old. They have not texted in a week. They viewed my story but did not answer my message. They were online. They posted. They made time for someone else. It does not matter how many bills you both have now. The kid inside still measures affection in frequency, not capacity.

Adult friendship asks you to grow a second lens. One that can hold “I miss how it was” and “they are not abandoning me, they are surviving.” One that understands that sometimes your friend did not text back because they spent all day trying not to cry in a bathroom at work. Sometimes they are not ignoring you, they are in the same fog you are.

Grace is not “let them treat me however.”
Grace is “I will not confuse silence with betrayal unless they show me it is.”

Check in, not out.
It sounds simple until your own pride gets involved.

There will be days you tell yourself “if they wanted to, they would have reached out” and use that as a reason to lock your phone. You call it a boundary. Often it is defense. It saves you from the vulnerability of being the one who sends “hey, how is your brain” after three months of nothing. It protects you from the possibility that they really have drifted. So you opt out quietly, tell yourself a story about how people change, and let something beautiful die out of sheer fear of going first.

What if checking in is not humiliation. What if it is maintenance.

Sometimes check in is not a deep talk. It is a dumb reel sent at 22:37 with “this is so you.” It is a voice note that says “I drove past our old place and wanted to throw up from nostalgia, how are you.” It is a “thinking of you, no need to respond.” You would be shocked how many people cry over those three words in grocery store aisles and parking lots.

And sometimes, yes, what you find when you check in is that the thread is gone. They give you one word answers. They do not ask anything back. They leave you on delivered until it becomes obscene. That is information. Grace does not mean pretending that is fine. It means you can let it hurt, let it be real, and still not turn it into a courtroom in your head. You can grieve without inventing a villain.

Adult friendship is two people saying, over and over, in a hundred tiny ways: I did not forget you. I am just carrying a lot. Thank you for still knocking.

[tara @_tmallory]

@JulieUGC @e__xily bless you!! thank you so much and congrats on getting tickets!!! 💙🩵

[whimsy lohan (in SF) @SexyLikeMeiosis]

andrea gibson wrote words that impacted my life, my heart, and my very way of being many times over. may they rest in peace 💔

[tara @_tmallory]

@dreamsandprose @halsey Ok I’m not very good at theories and all but they didn’t play The Prologue and we all know HFK is a concept album - but what if the two houses & a pair of star crossed lovers - is all about Ashley vs Halsey?! Like we think ego is about Ashley killing Halsey?? Anyways 🤷🏼

[. @madnssxo]

you just had to be there

[tara @_tmallory]

@kaitlens_photos wow wow

[Omar @TicTacTOmar]

Benoit drops Cozens

[tara @_tmallory]

@halsey This album has come at a time in my life when the songs couldn’t have been more relatable and that hurts so much but I can’t wait to sing these songs at the top of my lungs with you this summer. Thank you for being raw, honest and everything in between.

[ඞ @lifeinchaos_]

Parking at hospitals

[Aikna🪻 @aiknaverse]

How stoners look at each other when they are ready to smoke at the function

[cigarette @yolotruther]

first date idea i show you every trinket, poster, photo, and item in my room and explain the back story of all of them

[Ian Kennedy @IanKennedyCK]

Good find by Gord. We have the NHL banning players from following league rules? It seems like there can be no disciplinary action for players following what is written in the rules.

The NHL is showing overt support for homophobia and transphobia in defying their own rules.

[Charlotte Clymer 🇺🇦 @cmclymer]

In 2006, nine-year-old Katie Ledecky stood in line and met one of her swimming heroes Michael Phelps. Recently, at just 26, she broke Phelps' record for the most career individual world titles. Additionally, she has been undefeated in the women's 800m freestyle since 2012.