I got a call on a Sunday afternoon. It was a friend of mine who has been living with depression and suicidal ideation. In the call all he said was "Dude, I am not fine. I am losing it".
He didn't need to say more. I told him I am coming over and the first thing we are doing is checking in his firearm at the police station and then we can sit and talk. He lives about 1h30mins away and when I arrived he had already handled the firearm part. I won't say where he lives because that 1h30m will show that I was avoiding a funeral more than I was avoiding speeding tickets.
His wife was not around for the weekend so it was me, him and his kids. We left them watching TV and went to sit by a corner. We talked. About everything besides the call he made earlier.
Not because I wasn't curious but because after living with depression too I know that I don't always want a questionnaire. Or explain triggers that don't make sense. Or explain that sometimes I don't even understand why I feel that way I do. In fact, he was going through some of the best few months of his life when he made that call. New house, business going well... To the outside world he didn't "qualify" for depression.
The elephant in the room was there but we were laughing. I think the elephant was laughing too.
Months later he made a facebook post about that moment and we could joke about it now. Publicly. Not knowing that the simple act of sitting in that corner talking about shit was exactly why he called.
Too often when a low point in depression hits, we feel like we are talking to people we have to qualify our state to. People who mean well. But I don't know why I want my world to end. And even if I do, it is not always this great big thing that most people would think "Okay, it makes sense why you feel this way".
The other reason for this is that depression, like any illness, wants to live. It will do whatever it can to survive. Depression lies to you and tells you that you're a burden, that nobody actually cares and that reaching out will only make things worse. It's not avoidance. It's the illness doing exactly what it's designed to do. Live. Make you isolated.
And he actually is right about being a burden because he still hasn't reimbursed me for my petrol. Umuntu feeling suicidal nge mampara week knowing he lives in another province 😭 Ngiyayifuna imali yam ye Petrol na ma Tollgate 😭😭😭
@Prolific @Christy__Erb I also have raised tickets with you but have not been getting a response, I've been locked out of my account can you please look at ticket 534915
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Get a credit card paired up with your cheque account, this will remove the monthly account fee from your credit card. Get a small limit like R1k. Once a month when you buy your some groceries or something small instead of using your cheque card use your credit.
@ljmackjr I know this about myself as well. When I learn I’ve misunderstood something, I dig deeper. E.g., I recently had my feelings hurt and immediately jumped to erroneous thoughts about it, which pointed to some unhealed stuff that has nothing to do with what I was hurt about.
Know the importance of these signs..
When you are in need of help, you can explain to the Emergency Services exactly where you are…
The N3 is the highway you are driving on.
The -6 is a "section" of the road.
25.6 is the number of kilometers you have travelled from the previous town.
N is the direction (North).
A decision.
A conscious decision to wake up and choose the same person everyday, at their best and at their worst, knowing fully well, there’s someone better than you out there, and there’s someone better than them out there —-
@uMsongi_Lo Maybe if u are a McDonald this is true.. it is impossible in the Nguni group of people as surnames are derived from 1st names of our forefathers.. then further linked by clan names.. therefore if we share a surname.. it means we share a great grand parent.
@TboozeSA Insanity sana, this is my last year doing it. I am trying to squeeze in 3 days of rest before I start working in Jan. It's not a holiday at all. I am on my feet every day. I probably get an hr or so of rest during the day.
I'm so glad my mother made sure I was a complete human being before unleashing me to the world.
Imagine the pride to expose to the world that you're not helpful, considerate or even attentive enough to assist in your own home. Yhu anibhadlanga nyani.
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