@TvkeOfff You can’t model what was never modelled to you.
A lot of people aren’t refusing healthy love… they genuinely don’t recognise it because survival was normalised long before security ever was.
The problem is a lot of yall niggas did not grow up seeing your moms be pampered.. yall either saw y’all mommas working like dawgs, on drugs, with an abusive ass man or collective government assistance struggling to make ends meet.. a lot of y’all grew up with all half siblings and absent fathers, so you genuinely don’t know what the man’s role is supposed to be and that’s why a lot of yall can’t fathom giving a woman a soft life and being a provider bc you grew up believing women are supposed to be strong and take care of you! A lot of you niggas don’t even know to hold the door or walk on the outside of the sidewalk bc the only protector you ever had was a woman! Lmao
It’s not, it just has to be in you, being good solely for a reward is not good intentions. You just have to genuinely be who you are & blessings will follow. ✨