On the International Day of Reflection on the 1994 Genocide Against the Tutsi in Rwanda, we mourn the victims & pay tribute to the survivors.
We must learn from past failures & protect the living — by rejecting hatred, inflammatory rhetoric & incitement to violence.
People wonder how a couple can survive 10years of poverty, heartbreak & shared toothbrushes, only to marry & collapse in less than 3yrs, the answer is simple, but society fears it like NRM <>NUP😉
Marriage is the only place where people run faster during dating, but immediately after the wedding, they start walking like that masavu kabale based journalist
See, a ring was never meant to be a shortcut, it’s supposed to be a medal after a long war, but nowadays people want to wear medals before the battle even starts, it’s like roasting meat before u even light the fire, don’t be shocked when it tastes raw
let me tell u the parable of the Hen that stopped laying eggs, for years, a man fed his hen, cleaned the coop, protected it from hawks, the hen laid eggs like a factory, one day he tied a ribbon around its neck & called it my official hen, the next morning, the hen stopped laying, why, Coz recognition kills effort for those whose hearts were never working in the first place
Same thing with modern marriages, the moment the ring lands on her finger, some women relax like a politician after winning elections, promises forgotten, manifesto lost, effort buried, they say, yaaa, I’ve arrived & start behaving like a visitor in their own relationship
look at your friends who wedded recently, forget the photos; the captions lie more than politicians, in less than 5 years, many men are staying out of duty, not love, some remain for the children, others for public image, but deep inside they already relocated emotionally to another district, they only go home to charge their phones
thats the bitter truth, many marriages die quietly, like a candle in a storm, long before the neighbors hear the breakup, by the time the world notices, the man left that home spiritually 3 anniversaries ago
& the saddest proverb of all, when the ring becomes heavier than the love, even a faithful heart will look for lighter luggage
By; Kutegyeka Ivan-Omupakasi, author & former Kira CDO social worker