ngl I feel like everything that happened these last 6 months needed to happen. to allow me to see everybody ain’t for me, learning to set boundaries , learning to stop over sharing and over playing my part.
It’s important for your husband to fear you just a little bit. No partner of yours should be able to comfortably speak in this manner in public and still be bold enough to come home.
My friend made 20 million naira last month.
He is 26.
No degree.
He is a Computer Science dropout.
First salary: 50k.
Last month: 20 million naira.
What changed?
He stopped looking for jobs.
And started selling his dad’s land.
In 1998, I was fired from my corporate job while 9 months pregnant because and I quote, “my priorities would be elsewhere after the baby is born.”
The lawyer I hired told me I didn’t have a case because discrimination like “that” was almost impossible to prove.
So I got pissed.
Took the LSAT. Went to law school. Passed the bar. Had 3 more kids.
Twelve years later, another woman from that same company was fired for the same reason. She sued them for a million dollars, and won, partly because I had kept every piece of evidence from what happened to me years prior demonstrating a systemic pattern of discrimination against women.
That company no longer exists. My law practice is thriving. And that baby they said would derail my priorities? She’s a brilliant attorney now working at my firm.
Turns out my priorities were indeed, elsewhere.
I heard an interview today about AI in creative spaces and the man being interviewed said “AI is data, and Data can only look backwards. Creativity looks forwards.” And I need to sit with that in the best possible way.
when you realize that the most many men do for one woman is the bare minimum your friend does on a random Tuesday at 3pm just because she loves you and wants to see you