@loosewomen thank you. This is really important for me. Male pride strong but - threat of "I'll stop you seeing your children".. "I'll tell people you hit me" going out and hiding the pram so they can't leave the house. Cutting them off from their family.
When we lead big organisational change programmes, we tend to lead them through logic: rational arguments, business cases & systematic approaches. We might get better results if we lead them through loss, not logic.
We consistently underestimate the power of a sense of loss in change processes & get surprised when people react as they do. There are typically multiple senses of loss and actions we can take to lead change with loss, not just logic:
1) Loss of competence: “everything I know is useless now”. We can help normalise discomfort, highlight transferable skills, encourage unlearning & create quick wins.
2) Loss of control: “this is being done to me”. We can involve people in change (& be clear about non-negotiables), help set clear boundaries, tap into experience & show how contributions influence the process.
3) Loss of status: “I’m becoming irrelevant”. We can acknowledge contributions and achievements, help people pass on key insights, bridge past & future & help create mutual learning.
4) Loss of belonging: “we’re losing what made us special”. We can help preserve core traditions, build new rituals for the new environment, celebrate uniqueness & help teams to adapt the changes to their style where possible.
5) Loss of narrative: “this isn’t how things should be”. We can keep connecting back to purpose, acknowledge changing realities: preserve fundamental values & develop the new story together.
We can’t logic people out of loss. Nor should we try to fight people’s feelings of loss, but we can help bridge the past and the future and build something better, together.
https://t.co/1RPIRGTB56. By Gustavo Razzetti.
Suicidal thoughts aren’t always I want to die.
They’re also..
I feel trapped.
I need a way out.
I am a burden.
What’s the point in life?
I need to escape my thoughts.
Nothing will ever get better.
I see no future.
I can’t bare this pain anymore.
Am worthless.
#SuicideAwareness
@Jennings0497 Same here. Been sat here since 8am. Got through to depot who said it will be here within an hour...no such luck. Thing is its messed up today and also tomorrow!!!! DPD suck!!!
@Se_Railway im at st pancras waiting to go back to ashford but have an "off peak" ticket. I cant find anywhere anything that twlls me which trains are peak or off peak. Can you help?
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