Maturing is realizing that the best reassurance you can give your person in a relationship comes through conversation. When you're going through tough times, shutting down or going quiet only makes them feel unsure. But when you choose to talk things through and work it out together, it helps them feel safe, seen, and wanted.
as long as you keep showing up, the results won’t have a choice. just keep showing up. day in, day out cause some of the biggest changes in your life will happen slowly before they happen all at once. even when it feels repetitive. even when it feels boring. even when you feel like you’re putting in effort and getting nothing back yet. keep showing up. keep doing the work. keep trusting that every small thing you do is adding up somewhere. life rewards the people who stay consistent long enough for the results to finally catch up.
saw a couple laughing on their balcony. every time the laughter died down one of them would say smthng else & they'd start all over again. made me realise what i've been looking for all along is probably much simpler than i thought
i hate how physical touch as a love language gets reduced to sex and kissing when it's more like... handholding, laying your head on their shoulder, putting your legs over their lap, tracing their palm, tucking your feet under their thighs. just touching for touching's sake.
all i ask is for someone to choose me despite the complications there might be. to have someone want me so much that there's nothing that would get in the way of their love for me
when i'm mad from my perspective but i can also see their perspective so now i’m carrying double the emotional weight and being eaten away by my anger and empathy