Being positive is a mindset. It means you choose to respond in a manner that’s optimistic & constructive. You remember that the outcome could have been worse. It doesn’t mean you’re in denial; nor is life a bed of roses. Far from it. It means you’re grateful.
« Regarde donc les effets de la miséricorde d’Allah : comment Il redonne la vie à la terre après sa mort. C’est Lui qui redonnera la vie aux morts. Et Il est Omnipotent. »
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It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.