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Grimes was asked what it's like to be loved by Elon Musk. Her answer was not what anyone expected.
She said his love language is problem solving. When she was upset, he didn't hold her. He identified the problem causing the distress and began engineering a solution. When she was overwhelmed, he didn't say "I'm here." He said "what needs to change" and started changing it.
She described this as simultaneously the most caring and the most alienating experience. Caring because the speed and intensity with which he attacks a problem affecting someone he loves is unlike anything she'd experienced from any other person. Alienating because sometimes the problem is an emotion and the correct response to an emotion is not a solution. It's presence. And presence without action is something his operating system does not produce.
She described a night where she was crying. Not about a problem. About a feeling. The feeling had no name and no cause. It was the kind of formless sadness that arrives without explanation and leaves without resolution. She needed him to sit with her in it.
He asked what was wrong. She said nothing specific. He asked what he could fix. She said nothing needs fixing. He sat with her for several minutes in silence. She said the silence was visibly uncomfortable for him. The man who can sit through 12 hours of technical reviews was physically agitated by 4 minutes of sitting with an emotion that had no action item.
He tried. She emphasizes this when she tells the story. He tried to sit with it. The trying was visible. The inability was also visible. He stayed. But every second he stayed in the formless emotional space was a second his system was screaming at him to find the actionable problem and solve it.
His love is real. It arrives in the form of solutions. For problems that have solutions, his love is the most effective force on earth. For pain that doesn't have a solution, his love is a machine running at full power with nowhere to send the output.
Grimes was asked what it's like to be loved by Elon Musk. Her answer was not what anyone expected.
She said his love language is problem solving. When she was upset, he didn't hold her. He identified the problem causing the distress and began engineering a solution. When she was overwhelmed, he didn't say "I'm here." He said "what needs to change" and started changing it.
She described this as simultaneously the most caring and the most alienating experience. Caring because the speed and intensity with which he attacks a problem affecting someone he loves is unlike anything she'd experienced from any other person. Alienating because sometimes the problem is an emotion and the correct response to an emotion is not a solution. It's presence. And presence without action is something his operating system does not produce.
She described a night where she was crying. Not about a problem. About a feeling. The feeling had no name and no cause. It was the kind of formless sadness that arrives without explanation and leaves without resolution. She needed him to sit with her in it.
He asked what was wrong. She said nothing specific. He asked what he could fix. She said nothing needs fixing. He sat with her for several minutes in silence. She said the silence was visibly uncomfortable for him. The man who can sit through 12 hours of technical reviews was physically agitated by 4 minutes of sitting with an emotion that had no action item.
He tried. She emphasizes this when she tells the story. He tried to sit with it. The trying was visible. The inability was also visible. He stayed. But every second he stayed in the formless emotional space was a second his system was screaming at him to find the actionable problem and solve it.
His love is real. It arrives in the form of solutions. For problems that have solutions, his love is the most effective force on earth. For pain that doesn't have a solution, his love is a machine running at full power with nowhere to send the output.
There is one thing that losing something you thought you had figured out and wrapped around your fingers does: it brings you closer to God. It makes you realise that, ultimately, He is the One who gives and the One who takes away.
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Sometimes being the strong one, the person helping everybody, creating opportunities, trying to carry people with you, can create its own resentment.
And when you experience that enough times, the temptation is to close your heart. Stop trusting people. Start looking at everybody sideways.