The Qur'an exposed one of the deepest emotional wounds long before psychology had words for it.
Surah al-Kawthar is only 3 verses yet it was revealed to heal a pain that still breaks people today.
I used to wonder why Allah describes Himself as “closer to you than your jugular vein.”
Not your heart.
Not your soul.
Not your mind.
The jugular vein.
“And We are closer to him than his jugular vein.” (50:16)
I looked into it. The answer stopped me completely.
My sister has identical twins
She’s so tired this evening and I’m on the phone with her and one of them is bothering her and she went like “Nathan… or Ethan… or whoever you are…”
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The fire in Jahanam will not touch the person who recites "Allahumma Ajirni Minan Nar" 7x after fajr & maghrib.
If you choose to RETWEET this, it will be a Sadqatul-Jaariya for you and me
(Abu Dawood)
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Dear Parents,
I want to share one parenting secret with you. The one you won’t find in your regular blogs. And trust me, regardless of your faith, you will find this tip beneficial.
I want to explain why some kids become completely stubborn the more you punish them. I am doing this because I got some messages yesterday from people who have kids in the diaspora and how their kids have become stone-hearted to their parents’ warnings. It is indeed painful.
Remember that I mentioned the monumental book of Imam Al-Ghazali, Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. We have more things to learn from it.
In this book, he talked about a fragile part of a child's mind called the “Veil of Shame.” Note: Every child has this because they are born upon Fitrah (purity of the soul).
When a child does something bad for the first time, they usually try to hide it. They are afraid of being caught because they still value their dignity in your eyes.
The scholars explained that if a parent exposes the child, screams, yells at them, and punishes every mistake, you are tearing down their veil of shame.
Once a child realizes you already see them as a bad person, the humiliation has happened. They stop caring. You have destroyed their internal brakes. When they have no dignity left to protect, they will start doing those bad things openly and boldly.
How do you notice this in your child?
You can tell this is happening in your child when they stop trying to hide their mistakes and start becoming brazen or "strong-headed" when caught. This is a sign that the veil is thinning.
To fix this, you need to use a concept called Taghaful. It translates to intentional ignorance or pretending you did not see a fault.
Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us this. He did this with a young companion called Usama bin Zaid. But I see that our parents, due to their high expectations, are often too impatient to look away.
If you catch your child doing a hidden wrong, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is pretend you did not see it. Do not confront them and strip them of their respect.
Instead, bring up the topic later in a general conversation. Tell a story about why that action is destructive, without looking at them or accusing them. Let their own conscience do the punishing. Let them repent and fix it in secret.
A parent who hunts down every small mistake will end up raising a child who has no shame left to lose.
Let me know if you want more of these scholarly parenting tips. I will be willing to share. My DM is full with different issues. I cannot answer everything, but I am sure with these tips, a lot of those issues will be solved by God’s grace.
Thank you for your attention.
Allah knows best.
Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
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✅ Your Governor is a Christian.
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✅ 21 Commissioners are all Christians.
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✅ The majority religion is Christianity.
✅ The minority religion is Islam.
YET YOU CLAIMED MUSLIMS ARE KILLING YOU. I don't think there is any human with rational thinking who will believe that. My advice to Muslims of Plateau State is that I think it's high time you stood up and fought for your rights. Get yourself into politics. Stop this nonsense mentality of saying, "We left the political offices for them for peace to reign." Get yourself a better candidate who will protect your lives because, from the way things are going, these people will never allow you to rest. They slaughtered travelers, but they were pardoned.
They slaughtered themselves and still push the blame on you, seeking their government to prosecute you, even though most of them testify that the perpetrators are unknown. But when the culprits are caught and it happens that they are Christians, they turn a blind eye because it doesn't fit their narrative.
Why are they not saying anything about the Reverend Father arrested for supplying firearms to terrorists?📌
What happened to the church treasurer who kidnapped his pastors along with his friends?📌
What happened to the pastor who hired people to kill the Governor's father?📌
What happened to the killers of General Alkali Ali? 📌
What happened to the killers of the 26 Maulud travelers in 2021? 📌
What happened to the killers of the Zaria wedding travelers in 2024? 📌
What happened to the killers of 5 Muslim traders killed during fasting in 2026? 📌
What happened to the killers of 5 Muslims killed in a filling station?📌
May Allah be with the Muslims of Plateau State and Nigeria 🇳🇬
Please study the Qur'ān. I beg you, don't just listen to the sweet voices or just read in Arabic. Study it in your preferred language and make sure to think over it.
Muslims are thinkers. Muslims are ponderers. Muslims are readers. Pleased read. Read Islamic contents. Read Islamic History. Read Islamic legislations. Please read, as a Muslim.
There's so much abundance of knowledge, nuance and guidance in this deen that will never be exhausted. And the fun fact is that all of them are derived from the Qur'ān. All with basis and rulings. This is why scholars derive immense depths and benefits from verses you would randomly skim past on a windy Tuesday evening.
Please, read the Qur’ān. Please. May Allah grant you steadfastness upon haqq.