You are really stressing yourself chaque* moment because you don't trust your maker.
When you decide to trust Allah, you will reduce a lot of stress in your life..
As a guy, if your lady is a staunch Christian, don’t use relationship or dating to pull her away from God and if your lady is a staunch Muslim, don’t use relationship or dating to pull her away from Allah.
If you have the option of “spoiling your girl” or working on yourself to rather fit her religious criteria, I’ll plead with you to work on yourself.
If that woman will be the future mother of your children, do not pull her away from what held her every single year, from the time she was born till the time she met you. That will be the same factor, that will hold her after she marries you and, they are the same principles she will apply to raise your children.
Same islam in Quran 30:21 (Surah Ar-Rum):
"And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."
Technically! She's correct according to classical Islamic rulings, the husband is primarily responsible for finances.
But let’s be honest:
When applied with selfishness as she as clearly portrayed, this kind of mindset only turns marriage into a transaction instead of a team.
And no wonder muslim Men married as many wives as they pleases.
—Because where is love,
—Where is mercy,
—Where is mutual support as same Quran teaches.
The best marriages are built on generosity, not strict “my money vs your money.”
A good wife supports her husband when she can.
A good husband provides cheerfully.
Marriage is not a financial contract.
It’s a partnership. 💯👌🏼
Eid used to feel different when we were kids. After Eid prayers, it was straight from one family house to another, eating till you could barely move, enjoying with family and friends, showing off new clothes, and just soaking in the joy and togetherness that came with the season. The whole atmosphere felt alive.
Now, it’s Eid prayers and then off to work… or everyone disappears into their own schedules. Family is scattered now, I don't live close to any real family members, the big gatherings are fewer, and most times there’s not even any special Eid food waiting at home. Chale for marry. 😂
But still, Alhamdulillah for life.
Eid Mubarak to all my people. May Allah grant us long life, good health, peace and the opportunity to witness many more Eids together.