Well I suppose I learned last summer that life is short, definitely too short for holding grudges. So when @GamebredFighter said he wanted to sit down and break bread of course I took him up on it. Today he came to Wisconsin, sat down had some dinner and chatted it up. Turns out we have more in common than different 👊👊👊 Felt great to bury the hatchet and make a new friend. Life is too short to hold grudges, bury hatchets and move one with your life. So glad Jorge was able to come to Wisconsin today.
Imam Mālik (may Allāh have mercy on him) said:
"A man should treat his family kindly, so that he becomes the most beloved person to them."
📖 [Al-Muntaqā Sharḥ Al-Muwaṭṭaʾ, vol. 7, p. 212]
Imagine this.
- A man marries you.
- He’s now your authority.
- You leave your family.
- You’re now in a new kitchen, cooking for him.
- New environment, away from all you’ve known.
- You have to obey this man and please him.
- You have to carry and have his children.
- You have a new family around you (in laws).
- You go to his family’s house for ‘Eid.
Wallah, women go through life altering & drastic shifts when they become wives - in a way men do not - and it is PURE EVIL to oppress them.
Men are like a train on a track, they just keep going. Their path is not being altered for anything. It is as they move, on their path, that they pick up the woman who becomes their wife. She’s the one who has to surrender her destiny to wherever the man’s character and destination is. This is the reality.
Now imagine your daughter marrying an oppressor. Against this backdrop, it is something which could make a parent’s heart bleed.
PS: Disobedient feminist-wannabes and micro-feminists are outside the scope of this post. Kindly kindly kindly kindly kindly don’t engage me