Opubo ADDAH Temple

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[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

@osaz_ @segoslavia As for #Mental illness, we live in complete denial...
It's always over my dead body or God forbid bad thing, or it's not the portion of my household
Findings frm my undergraduate research says, "#mental illness wil outnumber HIV/AIDS in #Nigerian by 2025
Let's watch n see
Be wise

[Channels Television @channelstv]

“Japanese people think that when we use a certain place, we were told that you have to make that place look tidier when you leave than it was when you arrived,” said the 20-year-old, clasping a beer and a couple of cups, and wearing Japan’s blue shirt.

Japan fans left the stands spotless after their World Cup opener against the Netherlands in Texas on Sunday, saying it was ���Japanese culture” to tidy up after themselves.

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[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

In many cases, employees are not "quitting quietly"; they may be emotionally withdrawing after prolonged experiences of feeling undervalued, unheard, or exploited. The real question may not be why employees disengage, but what organizational conditions make disengagement seem like the most reasonable response.

Perhaps quiet quitting is less of an employee problem and more of a workplace diagnostic tool.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Have you heard about these concepts in the workplace?
Quiet Cracking or Quiet Quitting?

A young employee joined a company full of enthusiasm.

She volunteered for projects.

Stayed late when necessary.

Supported colleagues.

Brought ideas to meetings.

She genuinely cared.

Months passed.

Then years.

The workload increased, but appreciation didn't.

Expectations grew, but support remained scarce.

She started carrying responsibilities that belonged to three people.

Her emails became shorter.

Her smile became less frequent.

The passion was still there, but something was beginning to break.

This is called quiet cracking.

Quiet cracking happens when employees are emotionally, mentally, or physically exhausted but continue showing up.

They are overwhelmed.

Drained.

Stressed.

Burnt out.

Yet they keep pushing because bills must be paid and responsibilities must be met.

The problem is that cracks don't disappear when ignored.

They widen.

And eventually, self-preservation takes over.

The employee who once gave 120% now gives only what is required.

No extra effort.

No volunteering.

No emotional investment.

No staying late.

No going above and beyond.

This is quiet quitting.

The employee has not left the organization.

But a part of them has left the work.

The tragedy is that many organizations notice quiet quitting but fail to recognize the quiet cracking that came before it.

They see the withdrawal.

They miss the wound.

And when enough employees begin cracking, the consequences spread:

❌ Reduced innovation

❌ Lower morale

❌ Increased errors

❌ Workplace cynicism

❌ Higher turnover

❌ A culture where people survive rather than thrive

Sometimes the question isn't:

"Why are employees quiet quitting?"

The better question is:

"What has been causing them to quietly crack?"

Because people rarely disengage before they first become overwhelmed.

#QuietCracking #QuietQuitting #Leadership #WorkplaceWellbeing #MentalHealth #OrganizationalPsychology #EmployeeEngagement

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Quiet quitting is an interesting concept, but I think we need to be careful not to romanticize it. Is quiet quitting really a healthy boundary-setting strategy, or is it a symptom of deeper workplace issues such as burnout, disengagement, poor leadership, unmet expectations, and a breakdown of the psychological contract between employees and employers?

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

How Can Psychologists or Occupational Psychopathologists or HRM or Safety Officers Help Prevent Quiet Cracking and Quiet Quitting?

The answer may surprise you.

We cannot solve workplace burnout simply by teaching employees to be more resilient.

Imagine giving someone a stronger umbrella while leaving them in a storm.

Eventually, they will still get wet.

As psychologists, our work begins with understanding that quiet cracking and quiet quitting are often signs that something deeper is wrong.

At the individual level, we help employees:

Recognize early signs of burnout.
Develop healthy coping strategies.
Set realistic boundaries.
Build resilience and emotional regulation skills.
Seek support before reaching a breaking point.

At the team level, we encourage:

Psychological safety.
Supportive supervision.
Open communication.
Healthy conflict resolution.
Strong social support networks.

At the organizational level, we help leaders examine difficult questions:

Are workloads realistic?
Are employees adequately recognized?
Is there role clarity?
Do people feel heard?
Are managers creating trust or fear?
Is well-being genuinely valued or merely discussed?

The reality is that people rarely disengage overnight.

First, they become exhausted.

Then discouraged.

Then disconnected.

Then they withdraw.

By the time we notice quiet quitting, quiet cracking may have been happening for months.

Perhaps the goal should not be to stop employees from quiet quitting.

Perhaps the goal should be to create workplaces where people never feel compelled to withdraw in order to protect their mental health.

Because when people feel valued, respected, supported, and psychologically safe, engagement becomes natural—not forced.

And that is where psychology can make the greatest difference.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

WATCH WHAT YOU CRAVE FOR

This video stayed with me longer than I expected.

The bird was thirsty. The water (the content in the bottle) was beyond reach.

Rather than giving up, it did what many of us have been taught to admire: it became resourceful. It picked up stones one after another and dropped them into the bottle until the water level rose high enough to drink.

Persistence.

Creativity.

Problem-solving.

Resilience.

Everything we celebrate as ingredients of success.

Then it drank, with the sole to quench thirst, and died (unknowingly drank poison).

What struck me was that the bird did not fail because it lacked effort. It failed because it never knew what was inside the bottle.

How often do we do the same?

We spend years pursuing promotions, relationships, wealth, influence, validation, power, or even revenge. We work relentlessly, overcome obstacles, and make sacrifices in pursuit of them.

Then, after finally getting what we wanted, we discover that the thing itself was unhealthy, unsustainable, or incapable of giving us what we thought it would.

In families, some people crave approval so much that they lose their identity trying to please everyone.

In friendships, some crave belonging so deeply that they ignore warning signs and tolerate harmful relationships.

In the workplace, some chase titles and positions at the expense of their health, only to arrive exhausted, disconnected, and unfulfilled.

Even within ourselves, we sometimes pursue goals simply because society told us they were worth pursuing, never stopping to ask whether they align with our values and well-being.

We live in a world that constantly tells us to work harder, push further, and never quit.

Those are important lessons.

But perhaps an equally important lesson is this:

Before asking whether something is achievable, ask whether it is worth achieving.

Not every desire deserves devotion.

Not every opportunity deserves pursuit.

Not every bottle contains water worth drinking.

Sometimes wisdom is not found in striving harder, but in examining what we are striving for.

#Leadership #Psychology #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #SelfAwareness #CareerDevelopment #Relationships #LifeLessons

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

@itohan_olat @get2kenelvis She no joke with, "what if everything in this house changes to money, what will you do"?
Na to kpai person run through her mind abi

Nice one from the man
Too many persons no well in recent times 😕

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

You Can't Just Be There

Imagine someone followed you around for the next 30 days.

Your children.

Your spouse.

Your parents.

A friend who believes in you.

Someone who knows your dreams.

Not the version of you that appears on social media.

The real version.

The one that wakes up every morning.

The one that makes decisions when nobody is watching.

The one that spends time, money, energy, and attention every day.

What would they conclude about your life?

Would they say you are building the future you talk about?

Would they say you are intentionally living?

Or would they quietly notice that you're simply existing?

Because there is a difference.

You can be physically present and still be absent.

You can be alive and not truly living.

You can spend years in motion without making meaningful progress.

Many people wake up, go to work, come home, sleep, and repeat the cycle.

Days become weeks.

Weeks become months.

Months become years.

And before long, they realize they have been present for life without actively participating in it.

You can't just be there.

You have to be engaged.

You have to be intentional.

You have to decide what kind of parent, partner, friend, professional, or citizen you want to be.

Life does not reward mere attendance.

It rewards participation.

Your children do not only need a provider.

They need a presence.

Your spouse does not only need someone who comes home.

They need someone who is emotionally available.

Your community does not only need your existence.

It needs your contribution.

The truth is that many people are exhausted, not because they are doing too much, but because they are spending their energy on things that do not align with their values, purpose, or aspirations.

Busyness is not the same as progress.

Activity is not the same as growth.

Existence is not the same as living.

One day, every one of us will look back and evaluate our lives.

The question will not simply be whether we were there.

The question will be whether we truly showed up.

Did we love deeply?

Did we pursue what mattered?

Did we create memories?

Did we serve others?

Did we become the people we were capable of becoming?

Because at the end of the day, being present is the minimum requirement.

Living intentionally is the real challenge.

So today, ask yourself:

Am I merely occupying space?

Or am I actively creating a life worth remembering?

You can't just be there.

You have to show up.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

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[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

This story is heartbreaking, and if true, it reflects a reality many families are quietly grappling with.

Before we conclude that the children are simply uncaring, it is important to recognize that we do not know their side of the story. Some adult children genuinely abandon their parents, but others are struggling with unemployment, underemployment, debt, health challenges, or the pressures of raising their own families. In today's economic climate, having children is no longer a guarantee of financial security in old age.

For many of us raised in African collectivist cultures, children were often seen as a form of social security. Parents invested heavily in their children with the expectation that the children would, in turn, care for them in old age. While the value of family support remains important, the realities of modern life have shown that parents should also be encouraged, where possible, to prepare for their own later years and not rely entirely on their children for survival.

At the same time, love, gratitude, and responsibility towards one's parents should never become outdated values. The African child is still expected to honour and support parents, not merely out of obligation, but out of appreciation for the sacrifices made on their behalf.

The issue of religion in this story is also troubling. If a prophecy or vision suggests caution, it should not automatically translate into rejection, abandonment, or mistreatment. Wisdom requires discernment. Allegations should be handled carefully, compassionately, and responsibly, especially when they concern elderly family members who may be vulnerable.

Sadly, as family structures change and economic pressures increase, we may find ourselves having more conversations about elder care, assisted living, and other support systems that many African societies have traditionally resisted. Whether we like it or not, these discussions are becoming increasingly relevant.

Above all, this story reminds us of the need to treat older adults with dignity, verify claims before acting on them, and build societies where ageing does not become a sentence to loneliness and neglect.

[Ebun @kenkenlewu]

I saw dis old man in the market driving wheel barrow at his age and tears 😭 drop down from my eye😭😭.

I waited for him to go and offload the woman's goods and come back, so I walked to him and I said papa can I ask you a question, he happily replied me yes den we move one side 👂.

Me : papa why are you driving wheel barrow at dis your age that you should be resting?

Papa looked at me and ask my daughter where are you from and I told him, he then said no wonder 🤔 because I'm surprised you asking me dis question.

Me : papa I'm very sorry if my question hûrts you is just dat I'm feeling for you because in my place by now you should be resting in the village .

Papa : I'm very happy seeing someone dat care for me at least once in life, my daughter I have 5 children, 3 boys 2 girls and my wife is làté ever since den my children travelled but non of dem care about me.

Papa : my own children and my only brother chase me out from the house (family house) and called me a wîtçh.

Me : papa why did their call you a wîtçh?

Papa : They say dat a pastor tell dem dat I'm the one dat unalive my wife and I'm going to unalive all the family members soon.

Me : I gave him the little moni dat I had and bought for him food and Pepsi, papa 😭😭😭😭😭😭 and keep blessing me beyond words.

Papa : said to me my daughter please video me with your phone let me tell the world especially parents to make sure they keep something that they will use and take care of demselves while training children look at me sleeping in the market inside my wheel barrow 😭. I don't know what our children are turning to 😭😭😭😭.

Me : papa no sir that should be next time because I'm running late so dat I will have time ok my daughter bye.

Please share so that his children can see it and rethink now that they father is alive for his blessings.
©Florence Sokfa

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

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A universal lens

[AJ Inapi (Allan) @aj_inapi]

NO white person alive today owned slaves. Teach your kids that.

NO black person alive today was born a slave. Teach your kids that.

Not all white people owned slaves back then. Teach your kids that.

Millions of white people fought and died to end slavery. Teach your kids that.

People should not inherit guilt from their ancestors. Teach your kids that.

People should not inherit victimhood from their ancestors. Teach your kids that.

You are responsible for your own actions, not the actions of people who lived 200 years ago. Teach your kids that.

America is not perfect, but it is not uniquely evil. Teach your kids that.

The West is responsible for some of humanity's greatest advances in freedom, science, medicine, and prosperity. Teach your kids that.

Loving your country is not racism. Teach your kids that.

Wanting secure borders is not racism. Teach your kids that.

Wanting safe communities is not racism. Teach your kids that.

Wanting merit over quotas is not racism. Teach your kids that.

Questioning political narratives is not racism. Teach your kids that.

People should be judged by their character, not their skin color. Teach your kids that.

History should be taught honestly, not used as a weapon. Teach your kids that.

A nation that teaches its children to hate their heritage will not survive. Teach your kids that.

Your country is your home. Protecting it is not something to be ashamed of. Teach your kids that.

You do not owe an apology for being born. Teach your kids that.

Never let fear of being called names stop you from speaking the truth as you see it. Teach your kids that.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Even in anger 😠, do what is right (A kindergarten teaching from the Bible)

We must learn how to pause, think, before acting.... A key pass in emotional regulation

[Primzy @lovyPrimzy1]

My compound has been unusually quiet these past few days.

Last week, it was the complete opposite.
Around 11 p.m., we heard shouting from one of the flats. A husband and wife were arguing again. It wasn't unusual. They fought often, and most neighbors had stopped paying attention.

But this time was different.The husband stormed out and drove away.

The wife, still furious, locked the door from inside and started posting cryptic status updates about being done with disrespect and all that

The next morning, everyone noticed something strange…

[MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT INITIATIVE (OOU) @MHSIOOU]

“…true maturity is not about doing whatever one wants; it is about taking responsibility.”
~Dr. Addah

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Children are not projects to be completed; they are relationships to be nurtured. A father who only teaches survival may raise competent adults. A father who teaches, protects, and loves raises competent adults who still call home—not out of obligation, but out of joy.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

I dont agree
A father’s job is not only to prepare children for life—it is also to build a relationship worth keeping. Raising capable adults is important; raising adults who feel loved, secure, and connected is equally important. In healthy families, survival is the baseline; love is the legacy.

[Steven Jay Huron, Ph.D. @juggernaut_usa]

@Symply_rhoda1 A father’s job isn’t to make sure his kids love him when they become adults. A father’s job is to protect his kids as they grow up and give them skills they need to survive in adulthood. That’s our only job. If they love us, all the better. It’s just not our goal.

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Mental Health Awareness Month ended yesterday.
This is the take-home from the month of May.....
Protecting peace isn’t weakness.

Resting isn’t quitting.
Asking for help isn’t failure.

Real strength knows when to carry on and when to
pause.

Welcome to June

[Opubo ADDAH Temple @addahson5]

Now war has been declared, not against Christians alone, but against every Nigerian, irrespective of your location.

Open your eyes, and say no to further advances of any kind.

[The Yoruba Times @TheYorubaTimes]

Fulani Terrorists Declare War Rooted in Prophet Mohammed's Jihad Teachings, Demand Nigerians Convert to Islam or Face Death

Fulani terrorists have reportedly declared that their war is rooted in the teachings of Prophet Mohammed on jihad, urging every Nigerian to convert to Islam or continue being slaughtered. The declaration has raised alarm among religious and community leaders.

Critics are questioning why some groups still claim to be proud citizens of Nigeria while terrorists openly plan to Islamize and kill.