this may sound harsh, but as a woman you cannot surround yourself with a bunch of miserable women and thrive. I know everyone has their moments and goes through things but some are just internally miserable and will never be able to lift you or genuinely be happy for you.
There is this sect of “I am better than you Christians”
You see it all around in their tweets and their thought processes.
And I wonder if we are all reading the Bible.
bell hooks wrote, “Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power — not because they don’t see it, but because they see it and they don’t want it to exist.”
About a month ago my daddy heard my voice crack on the phone and he immediately insisted on driving from Ogun state to Lagos by 11pm.
I tried dissuading him but this man said no and brought me back home where he could keep an eye on me.
Forever thankful that I call him my dad.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. Likes And eventually, the bill comes due.
Even platonically, I love intensely. Intimacy is not reserved for romance. I will always respect people's boundaries, but I think a lot of people are taken back because they've never been loved for the sake of being loved. I don't want anything. I just really love my friends.
This generation needs to decenter this AESTHETIC mentality.
You’re making a video in your fathers house and you started with “ignore the background”, because e no get POP,
For house wey your papa sweat build.
You’re starting a small business but you want it to be aesthetically pleasing straight away, wasting money on packaging.
Everything we do now we want it to be AESTHETICALLY PLEASING.
Let’s just free ourselves from this shackles and live freely.