THE FEAR AGEING BRINGS. [Week 28, 2026]
"When we age, we shed many skins: ego, arrogance, dominance, pessimism, rudeness, selfish, uncaring … Wow, it's good to be old!" - Stephen Richards
It's a bit coincidental, but a large part of what I plan to talk about this week has a lot to do with 'Control', one of the two components of the topic I discussed last week; Power. It's such a vast word, depending on the context you wish to look at it from.
Now, control, is basically the ability to exercise some level of influence over somethings, your level of control usually depending on the very ability which you have. Most of the time, when we talk about control, we dissect in terms of the external, people around us, groups, societies... etc. But today I wish to explore an angle that is hitherto unmentioned, at least in my written pieces so far.
Have you ever thought of the control you have over your very self, your own body, your own mind? Have you ever thought of it all slipping away gradually one day? Maybe what is scary isn't actually death, but that even the little things you once had control of, elude your grasps gradually and you're forced to adapt. Meaning that that which you were once capable of, suddenly isn't possible anymore.
You had an athletic body, a witty mind, fingers that had honed the art of painting... With these you amassed fame and fortune, became renowned even. But eventually, the inevitable happened, time catches up to you. Distances you once sped over become impossible to do, heck, a staircase seems too hard to climb now. You struggle to hold information in your mind now, even the ones you know from yester-years gradually begin to fade away.
With these gifts you had and youth, you amassed wealth, you acquired power. But let's look at two possibilities. On one hand, with the wealth and power you manged to acquire, you lived fairly good, did the best you could for your family, friends and the occasional stranger. Alternatively, having had a taste of what power and wealth could do, you maybe became enamoured. Thus, you kept clawing your way up, just for the sake of acquiring more, but your skills are ageing, the pretty face you relied on isn't as pretty as it once was.
And worse yet, you look on at the younger ones, their ability to learn such things you once did, do it as superbly as you once did, and maybe even better. You maybe then begin to resent ageing, fight it unwillingly even, then the resentment even spreads to those very younger ones you see, their vigour, fearlessness and beauty.
And so, if care is not taken, aside from definately becoming unable to perform the things you're skilled in as fluidlly as you could in youth, you watch on in despair as even the basic things you overlooked, become tasks for you too. You fear death, but that seems far away and even if It comes, it comes once. But ageing will see you loose the ability to do those things you loved, those things you considered part of who you are, things you were proud of. This breeds fear, resentment, envy even.
Is old age then a good thing or a fate similar to death? I'm not too sure about that, I may not be qualified to answer that question, but perhaps it would benefit you to begin early to condition your mind, that there is very little you have control over and even those which you do will gradually elude you with time. Don't fear it, plan for it, embrace the inevitable and do not allow it sap you of the joys of life.
If you come across a younger one who now has what you once did, instead of resentment, why not help? Instead of envy, why not be appreciative? These things are merely tools for us to exist, we are to control it when we can and let it go when we can't...[READ THE REST VIA THE IMAGES]
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Once you learn how to shop directly from China, E.g Temù or shien your wardrobe changes completely. Call me cheap I don't care I ain't rich, I don't do fraud.😭
It's knowing what to search for.
Here's my style after making plenty of mistakes.
1. T-shirts:
Skip 100% polyester unless you're buying gym wear.
Instead, search:
• 100% Cotton
• Combed Cotton
• Heavyweight Cotton
• 240-300 GSM Cotton
• Premium Cotton
• Mercerized Cotton
The heavier the GSM, the thicker and more premium the shirt usually feels.
2. Jeans:
Denim Jeans
Temu is surprisingly good for denim if you know what to search.
Search:
• Denim Jeans
• Cotton Denim
• Raw Denim
• Selvedge Denim (if available)
• 98% Cotton + 2% Elastane
• 99% Cotton
Avoid jeans with high polyester content. The more cotton, the better they'll age and feel.
3. Body-hug clothing:
Search:
• Ribbed Knit
• Modal
• Viscose Blend
• Cotton-Spandex Blend
They hold their shape much better than cheap polyester.
4. Hoodies
Search:
• 400 GSM
• French Terry
• Cotton Fleece
• Heavyweight Hoodie
5. Chains
Search:
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Titanium Steel
• PVD Gold Plated
• Vacuum Plated
These are far more resistant to fading than ordinary fashion jewelry.
6. Earrings
Search:
• 925 Sterling Silver
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Hypoallergenic
• Moissanite (if you're buying stones)
7. Scarves
Search:
• Mulberry Silk
• Silk Blend
• Cashmere Blend
• Wool Blend
• Viscose
Avoid the shiny, thin polyester scarves if you're after a premium look.
8. Loafers
Search:
• Genuine Leather
• Cow Leather
• Full Grain Leather (rare but worth looking for)
• Rubber Outsole
9. Sneakers
Search:
• Rubber Outsole
• EVA Midsole
• Breathable Mesh
• Leather Upper
• Stitched Sole
Pictures lie a lot
The description usually tells the truth.
Here's how I shop:
1. Read the material composition before anything else.
2. Sort by Most Orders or Best Selling, not cheapest.
3. Only buy products with lots of reviews or pictures or even better when a Nigerian has purchased it before they always tell the truth.
4. Read the 1-star reviews first. They'll tell you what the seller won't.
5. Look at customer photos, not the product photos.
6. Check the weight of the product. Better quality clothing is often heavier.
7. Read the size chart. Don't assume your Nigerian size matches.
8. If the title has words like "luxury," "premium," or "designer" but the material is 100% polyester, not everything but still move on.
Your best friend isn't the product picture.
It's the material, the reviews, and the customer photos.
That's how you separate the gems from the junk.
I hope this help.
Things are to expensive for a country this poor.
@winning_sound@dammiedammie35 I have my brother in the UK who I heard him categorically taught a colleague how to pronounce the name Adebayo, like bro prefers that name sticks there instead of using his other name that’ll be easier to pronounce
@jon_d_doe Omooo
When we fail to keep or know what boundaries are, it’ll be difficult to stand up when we ought to. The “friend” should ensure to take these words of Agba, it’s best for him and his mental health