Adekunle Oludayo

[Ka-nee-chee Christ @NKanichi]

Christian song: I still got joy in chaos 🎵

Christian sis: you can't have the Holy Spirit and be perpetually sad or depressed.

Normal response: really? Show me how.

Logic bro: how dare you say such a thing. I've been depressed since 5 years, don't invalidate my feelings.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

So a brother sent the testimony of how he used to have high blood pressure from the age of 30 and that sometimes things got so bad that his head would be banging and his heart beating so fast and painfully that he would clutch his chest and cry in pain until he was rushed to the hospital.

He said he was eventually declared to have experienced heart failure and told that he would die within six months if he does not get a heart transplant

The doctor told him his heartbeat was gone and all he hears when he places a stethoscope on it was a hollow noise.

He did other tests and it was confirmed that his heart was gone.

This man was a Christian who converted from another religion to Christianity.

He said when he got home and informed his wife, she protested!

Before he knew it the news had flown to his parents and other relatives and they began to mock him that it was because he left his previous religion that their god struck him with heart failure.

He said he read the message sent to him by his father several times and tried to cry in pain and shame but instead of crying, he suddenly began to laugh hysterically as if he had gone out of his mind.

He said the more he tried to control the laughter, the more he laughed the more!

The laughter lasted for some hours to the point where he was rolling on the floor and tears streamed out of his eyes.

He said his wife thought he had gone crazy and began to weep with his two children while they watched him laugh.

He said the laughter stopped at about 9pm.
Then he heard in his heart, “Laughter is medicine”.
He said he didn’t even know it was written like that in the Bible at the time.

A month went by and a year went by. He went back to the same hospital for medical check up and the doctor asked him “How are you still alive?”

The doctor checked his heartbeat and it was there but faint.
The doctor checked his blood pressure and told him to be careful because he had low blood pressure.

He said he told the doctor that he had not enjoyed good health since he became an adult as he was enjoying at that time and since that time till today.

No more banging headaches, no more banging heartbeats, no more painful chest seizures and swallowing garlic and other remedies daily.

It’s been twelve years and he is still going strong daily.

Glory!!!!!

[GSWMI Elders Fellowship @GSWMIEldersF]

GSWMI Agape Elders Ministration in Awe Oyo State 29th May 2026. God bless you Bro Oludayo and GSWMI ministers for your labour of love @AdeksDayo

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Her man decided he no longer wanted to eat her food
She had been complaining a lot about house chores
So the man took her up on it
He bought his own fridge and microwave and placed them in the guest room
He went to work and returned home with takeout that would serve him for dinner and breakfast
He loads them in the fridge
At night, he brought a meal out and microwaved it
The next morning, he brought the other meal out and microwaved it

The wife felt he would soon get tired of it but he didn't
The next week, he brought home a new water dispenser and some plates and cups
He set them up in the guest room
He now had a makeshift kitchen of his own
The wife ignored him
"Let him keep acting like a child," she said
What is so difficult in cooking, supporting me to do the dishes, and cleaning the house
We are both working, and this is supposed to be a partnership

She needed to service her car
Usually, he would do it, but since he started throwing his tantrum, he had locked her out of his life
She called the mechanic and dealt with it herself
The gutters in front of their house were filthy.
He would usually clean them on Saturdays, but he left them
There were grasses around the house that he cut and tidied on Saturdays; he also left them undone
They had a bank account for household upkeep.
She noticed that he funded it with half of what he normally would send into it
They already had a child, and it felt like he only sent the upkeep for the child into the account
He went out early in the morning, returned home by 5 pm daily, and locks himself in the guest room
Whenever she was not at home, he would spend some time with their baby
Whenever she was home, he avoided her and the baby

A month went by, three months went by
He was as defiant as she was
What sort of a man keeps malice like this? she wondered
What sort of man is this immature?
Silent treatment, malice, keeping grudges, does he want me to come and beg him? She wondered aloud
What sort of ego requires this sort of worship?

She reported the matter to their church pastor
The pastor called the husband and invited him to church for a discussion
The husband went to see the pastor
The pastor asked the husband what the issue was
The husband said, "Nothing. He had been enjoying some peace and quiet and would like it to continue for as long as possible."
The pastor asked the wife what had been going on
The wife started from the beginning and spoke on and on and on

"I wake up early, and I have to prepare myself and our child for the day
He will not help me do anything
We both work and keep the home together
Everything should be split right through the middle
We are both providers; we should both wash plates, clean the house, and share everything in common.

The pastor listened and asked the husband to do better.

They got home
Husband moved back into the bedroom
Early the next morning, the husband swept the whole house
Washed the plates and bathed the baby
He also prepared breakfast and packed their lunches
He dressed up and took the baby to the creche
She felt good.
Thank God the pastor spoke to him, and he heard
He repeated it the next day and the day after that
Without complaining
He would do all the house chores, care for the baby, and go to the office
He would return in the evening, prepare dinner, wash the dishes, and care for the baby
Saturday came, he cleaned the surroundings, tidied the gutters, cut the grass, and still tidied up the house, did the dishes, and washed his clothes and those of their child
He was over-efficient, cooks good meals too, and didn't complain or give off any foul air
One day turned into four months
Every time she wanted to sleep with him, he would say he was too tired

They rarely talked because he slept when the baby slept and woke up when the baby woke up every day
She felt like a third wheel in the marriage
He had eliminated all her complaints with determination.
She knew the other shoe would drop eventually and that may be the final nail in the coffin of her marriage
She started feeling uninvolved in her own marriage
She went back to the pastor
Sir, I don't understand what this man is doing
He does not allow me to do anything in the house, and for him or for our baby
When I complain, he will say, "You are a helpmeet, when I need help i will let you know, and I don't want to fight with him on this. Please, sir, help me".

The pastor asked her what time he wakes up.
She said 4:30 AM.
The pastor said, "Wake up at 4.00 AM tomorrow and do the housework. If you leave things like this, your marriage is dead already. We are just waiting for the day of the funeral."
She woke up at 4.00 AM the next morning and began to do the house chores
He woke up at 4:30 AM and looked at her sternly before saying, "I do not want your help. If you insist on doing anything in this house, I will leave this house for you and never return."

She dropped the plate she was washing and went on her knees.
"Please, I am sorry. Let me be your wife. Let me play my part. I know you are doing all this out of hurt, and I felt you would get tired of doing all this. You have kept at it.
Please, please, I am sorry. I won't complain again. I am tired of idleness and being uninvolved. I won't grumble again. I want this marriage to work. Please. Please."

He looked at her and went to the room to pick up their daughter.
While she cleaned, he bathed and dressed their daughter. They had breakfast together and smiled at each other as they left for work. Throughout the day, he texted her, and she replied. She picked up their baby from the creche and met him at home by 5 pm.
The storm is over!

Night came, and she waited for that make-up sex moment. She had so missed him.
It didn't happen.
She tapped him and asked him why he was not touching her
He said he needed some time to wrap his mind around having sex with her again
She softened up and started stroking him
"You are still angry with me. I can feel the resentment. I am sorry. I mean it. I won't take you for granted again or complain that I am just a helpmeet and not the one who was supposed to be doing so much. I am sorry."

Love was made.
He cried afterwards and reminded her of how hard he had been working to ensure that they had a house of their own before he turned thirty-five
He said the trouble she gave him for one year cost him a lot of money, as he had to let go of several opportunities that he would have taken if he didn't have to keep the home himself
She apologised to him again

The next morning, she woke up at 4.00 AM
He didn't move.
She did all the house chores with joy
He woke up, dressed up, and rushed off to the office
She dropped the baby at the creche
He sent his driver to go service her car, he paid off all the bill and sent her more than enough for the monthly upkeep

He was happy, and so was she
She learnt a vital lesson through that episode
When she did the chores as labour, she resented him
When he did the chores all by himself, he resented her
When she started doing the chore as an act of service, she enjoyed it
When she started seeing the benefits of his joy in his care for her, she understood it

PS: Once I do your role, what relevance are you then to me
Once you do my role, what need do I serve to you?
We do not share roles because we cannot both do each other's roles in a marriage
We share roles because it makes us relevant to each other and helps us to complement each other
If we both provide and I take care of masculine tasks while you take care of feminine tasks in the house, we are fine
It is better to be needed than to serve no need

-GSW-

[Wale Funsho @walefunsho]

He was approached as a doctor in their church. Her daughter was ill and couldn't eat because she was also vomiting. He prayed for her but had this nudging in his spirit to tell them to go to a hospital. He was wondering why the instruction came, rather than immediate healing.

[GSWMI Elders Fellowship @GSWMIEldersF]

Agape Ministration and Communion Service in Awe, Oyo Town on 25th April 2026.
Thank you Bro Oludayo, Sir AOB, Bro Bolaji, Sis Dee, Pastor Kesh, Sis Annie and the missionaries. God bless you all and while you are yet speaking, Abba grants your requests in Jesus name @AdeksDayo

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Ten years ago today, I sat down at my office and took a stock of my life.

I didn’t like the direction my life was going
Poverty had a chokehold on me

I began to fret, because I was just a few years away from turning forty and all the potentials I had shown since childhood had refused to bear fruit in my adulthood

I had given birth to my children in poverty
They were attending the cheapest school I could find

I had a job that could best be described as that of a glorified messenger
I had a degree that had not brought me any profit

My life was a hard and unpleasant one
Added to that I developed a mysterious illness and the doctors told me I had six months to live

I was a pastor, a born again Christian and I was living that “It shall get better in the by and by” life

I turned to the Lord and I had a conversation with him
When Lord will Jacob become Israel?
When Lord will potential turn to manifestation?

The Lord said “I told you your destiny in 2007, you chose to live like others and not as I have ordained you to live.
Hence, this battered life

There is a space for you, preserved for you in destiny, if you will embrace it.

I said “I am ready Lord, what do I do?”

He told me simple things…

Read that Bible daily for two hours
Pray in the Spirit daily for two hours
Start praying for people and nations as an intercessor
Stop complaining and start appropriating my blessings to your destiny

I obeyed.

Today is the ten years anniversary of my freedom from rebellion
I embraced obedience and the course of my life changed forever

It is not too late to do the same.
There is a destiny for you in Christ, it is not difficult to fulfil but you must be willing to trust and obey.

Happy Birthday, GSW!

[Isaac sogo @Isaacsogo]

I was in the NYSC camp at Sokoto when UI MSc form was out. My brother called if I will be applying. I said I won't be cos I applied for scholarships in about 3 countries. Then, he said, "what if none worked out? Why not have a back up? I will apply for you." And guess what?

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The vital side of the plan of Redemption is based upon confession.
In order to receive Eternal Life, you confess Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord, and your faith in His resurrection from the dead.

This is my Christ In ME Confession

“I am from above.”

“I came forth from the Father; I came into the world: again I leave the world and go unto the Father.”

“I am the light of the world; he that followeth me shall not walk in the darkness but shall have the light of Life”

What a confession!
“I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man can get to the Father but through Me” (John 14:6).

“I am the reality. The wisest of humanity have sought for reality, but they have never found it until they find it in The Man. Jesus is the end of all search; He is reality. As He is, so Am I Now in this world”

“I am the life.” The Greek word, “Zoe,”

Jesus came that I might have life and that ye might have it abundantly” (John 10:10).
I now live and dwell in abundant life through the finished work of Jesus Christ

“Of His fulness have we all received and grace upon grace.”

I have received of the fullness of His life, of His nature, of His wisdom, of His Love. That life was brought by Jesus, and He gives it to me.

I have eternal life pulsating through my whole being right now

You understand that Eternal Life is the one thing that man must have. Forgiveness of his sins would not help him any. He would go on committing the same old sins. What he needs is Eternal Life, the nature of God, to displace his old fallen nature and make him a New Creation in Christ Jesus.

When Jesus said, “No one can reach the Father but by Me,” He was closing every door. The people who accept philosophy and metaphysics instead of Eternal Life are utterly lost. They can never stand in God's presence. Eternal Life gives to man Righteousness. Righteousness means the ability to stand in the Father's presence without the sense of guilt or inferiority.

Eternal Life makes us His very sons and daughters.

When Jesus said, “No man cometh unto the Father but by Me,” we see it. The same truth is brought out by Peter, “And in no other is there salvation, for neither is there any other name given under heaven which is given among men whereby we must be saved” (Acts 4:12). “I am the good shepherd” (John 10:11).

“The Lord is my shepherd; I do not want.” Then, He is my Caretaker, my Protector, my Bread-Provider.

The shepherd is responsible for the protection of the sheep.
He is responsible for their food and water, and so my Shepherd, Jesus, says, “I am the Bread of Life. He that cometh to me shall not hunger, and he that believeth on me shall never thirst.”

How does that fit into the thought of the shepherd?

He leads me down where the waters are gentle and quiet. He takes me back then, where the alfalfa is rich. In every place in life, He cares for me.

My God has supplied all my needs according to His riches in Christ Jesus.
He has blessed me with every spiritual blessing in the heavenlies in Christ
He is my Protector and Caretaker.
He is my Shield.
No enemy can touch me.
Nothing shall by any means hurt me
“It is the spirit that giveth life. The flesh profiteth nothing. The words that I have spoken unto you are spirit and are life.”

No other man ever talked that way, ever dared say that his words were spirit and life; that is, that they fed this human spirit, that they gave life to our bodies.

I am a member of his body, his flesh and his bones, I have become one with Christ, the chastisement of my peace was laid upon Him and by his stripes I was made whole. His words are food and strength and health unto my body.

You remember Psalm 107:20 says, “He sent his word and healed them.” Then there is Romans 8:11, “And if the Spirit of Him who raised Christ Jesus from the dead dwell in you, He that raised up Christ from the dead shall give life also to your mortal bodies by His Spirit that dwelleth in you.”

His words meet every need.

But this scripture could mean so much to us: “For I am come down from heaven to do my Father's will” (John 6:38).

As I walk in the Father's Will, I always walk in the Light. I will never injure anyone. My words are saturated with love. I walk in the light, for His will is the Light.
I walk in Love, for His will is Love. I became one with Him and I do His will always
I am in Christ and I walk in the will of the Father; I will never step out of that will.”

“I am the living bread which came down from heaven: If a man eat of this bread, he will live forever. Yes, and the bread which I shall give is my flesh, for the life of the world” (John 6:51).

My spirit feeds on Jesus. My heart feeds on love, and I long for His presence, until His Love comes to satisfy me

Jesus is the living bread for my spirit, the living water to quench my thirst.

Of His fullness have I received.

I have received His Strength.

Spirits and beings of darkness shrink from the consciousness of my righteousness in Christ. They know that I am their master, and they fear me.

I feed on the bread of the Mighty-the Word of God. I digest it until my whole being is saturated with His Life, it makes me victorious, fills me with victory, gives me the sense of oneness with Him. “He is with you, but He is in you”; and I become conscious of His indwelling presence everyday as I meditate upon Him. (John 14:17.)

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

CSR at Awka!!!!

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Ghosts Of the Past

Good evening, sir, good evening, Bro Gbenga

I met you last year at Sister Ihuoma’s event in Lekki.

When I met you last year, I mentioned to you that I had just started my business and needed prayers for growth. To the glory of God, my business is thriving now, and I am truly grateful to God for how far He has brought me. I got my first car last year, and I am doing well in business.

I also remember telling you then that although life was being good to me in many ways, I was still trusting God for my own husband. You prayed with me, and I have held onto those prayers.

Sir, I am reaching out because I need help, clarity, and spiritual direction concerning a relationship I have been in.

I have been involved with a man who is legally married, but he and his wife have been separated for some time (almost 2 years)

The painful part is that I did not know the full truth at the beginning.

When we started getting serious, he gave me different explanations about his situation regarding the marriage.

He is a very passionate man who loves his family to the point where anything that happens to anyone he loves affects him emotionally.
I notice that when he gets a phone call from his children’s school about any issue, his mood would suddenly change as he begins to consider the steps to take.

Sometimes these issues are just for your information issues that require no immediate action, and some of the issues are the type one looks away from, or that require noting
Yet, it would cloud his emotions dramatically.

What he told me when we first met was that he was widowed.
He said his wife went to the USA to deliver their third child, but only the child survived.
He told me this happened in 2020, and I believed him.

He is not someone who lies by nature. In the instance of his wife, he was blinded by passion and hatred and told everybody, including me, that she was dead because upon her return from the USA to deliver their last child, she just packed everything in their duplex, rented another house, and moved into it with her mother.

The birth of her baby had serious complications, her mother and her husband had to fly to the USA from Abeokuta (The husband sponsored the trip. The mother went with some concoction materials that she cooked for her, and this is what they claimed saved her from dying in the delivery room)

Her mother also told her that she is an elegbe (child of a cult) and she had chosen to be married only for eleven years by her predestination and to live alone and raise her children alone after that if she intends to live a long life.

This was why she left her matrimonial home with the children.

I didn’t know anything like this went on in his life before he met me.
When he met me, he told me he had three children and that His Wife died giving birth to their last child.

He said his children were with his wife’s parents, as the demands of business have not given him the time to nurture them himself.

He said he was hoping to get married and relieve his in-laws of the burden of raising his children in their old age.
The children are 12 and ten years old.
The youngest one is five years old.

He said his plan was to send them off to the boarding school once they got to SS1, even if he was able to remarry on time. He is well-to-do by his own right, but when we met, he practically moved into my flat because he said the “ghost of his past life was haunting him in his mansion

It was only later that I began to realise that things were not as he had presented them.

`his wife had told him to regard her as dead to him and to move on with his life. The push gift he bought for his wife for the last child was a duplex at a popular estate in Lagos. He had not presented it to her before she left the marriage. He showed me the documents.

The evidence he presented regarding his situation was overwhelming; the best of them all was the fact that he is living in my flat even until now.

I knew he was “widowed” and would need time to heal. I didn’t push any agenda. I just loved him and made sure I didn’t complicate his life with womanish troubles. I am 40 years old, and he was a very good catch for someone of my age. He is not a troublesome person, and he cares deeply for everything and everyone in his life, including me.

After about two years of being with him, I told him I would like to either get married or have a child, as I was not getting younger. I am a woman of substance by the grace of God, and I didn’t need anything from anyone in order to live a good life on my terms. I was willing to pay for artificial insemination with donor semen in order to fulfil my dreams. I only informed him of my plans so that he might be carried along, or hopefully, I felt he might want to be a part of my project.

I could do it without a man involved, but if he were a part of it willingly, I would appreciate it and be grateful for it. He was excited about it and told me to get all the documents I needed to deliver the baby in the USA.

The enthusiasm however died down gradually as his separated wife got broke and began to take advantage of him emotionally by calling him every night by 2-3 AM crying of loneliness and how much she loved him but destiny is wicked and how she and her mother has been running around to seek a remedy to her separation from him while hoping he would hold on and not marry somebody else until they have a definite answer from their spiritualists on how to change her destiny so that she might remain married to him.

This was the moment he told me the truth about their separation, the circumstances, and the fact that his wife might still come back into his life if a solution was found to the “cult child curse” she was carrying, relating to her marriage and life.

The children are with his estranged wife, and not with his parents, as he had previously made me believe. Being the kind of dedicated father that he is, he tries his best to see them in their schools as often as he can because he has been forbidden to see his wife face-to-face in this life, so that she would not die

I also discovered that although they are separated, he is still deeply emotionally attached to her. From the day his wife called, He took responsibility for her life, pays all the bills, and seems unwilling to fully let go of that marriage, even though they have been apart for a long time.

This has left me in a very painful and confusing position.

The truth is, I love him deeply. He has been one of the kindest, most present, and most intentional men I have ever experienced in my life. Beyond financial support, he has shown me care in ways I have never really known before. He is thoughtful, attentive, and very involved in my life. He has become such a huge part of my emotional world, and that is what has made it so difficult for me to walk away.

The conversations about building a future together and even having a child stalled from that day his wife revived his hope that they could come back together. He began to say he was not in the right mental space and that he could not give me what I truly wanted. More recently, he told me clearly that he is still waiting for his wife and is not ready to move on from her. He made this statement two days ago.

That statement broke me deeply.

Because the truth is, while he says he cannot give me what I want, he also does not seem willing to fully let me go. This has kept me emotionally stuck for a very long time. I have tried to leave this relationship many times. I have blocked him, ended things, and told myself I was done, but somehow I keep going back, and he keeps coming back into my life also

Sir, I am tired emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Part of me feels I should leave and choose myself. Another part of me feels guilty, like I am abandoning someone who may be going through a lot emotionally and spiritually. He has also shared some things with me about spiritual battles and family issues surrounding his wife’s family, and I honestly do not know how much of this situation is spiritual, emotional, or simply an unhealthy attachment.

This is why I am reaching out to you.

Please, sir, I need your honest counsel and prayers.

I want to know:
Should I completely walk away from this relationship?
Is there something spiritual I need to understand about what I am dealing with?
Am I holding onto something God is asking me to release?
Or is this a battle I should still be praying through?

I am being very vulnerable because I genuinely do not know what to do anymore. I know I may sound foolish, but I am honestly just a woman in love, confused, and hurting. I do not want to keep making decisions from pain, fear, attachment, or false hope.

Please, sir, if you can, kindly help me with your prayers, guidance, and spiritual direction.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
God bless you, sir.

PS: We are all wired differently. Life is not mathematics. It is a series of theories and hypotheses that can either be proven or disproved. I have seen widows and widowers who are so attached to their late partners that anybody who happened to come into their lives later found themselves unable to truly find love and connection with the widow or widower in many ways.
I have seen widows and widowers who moved on from their late partners without looking back.
I have seen divorced people who threw divorce parties and walked away from the marriage with songs of thanksgiving
I have seen divorced people who are still very much emotionally attached to their exes, even though they both know they cannot be married again
One would think it is easy to break up, walk away, and start over. It is not.
In a case where a man and woman still love each other but have been kept apart for one reason or another, any third party who comes into their lives hoping for love and affection would find themselves struggling to be loved the way they desire because of the ghosts of the past.

The Ghosts of the past must be buried by the one it haunts. A third party cannot play a role in it.
When you are tired of the yoke, you must break it from your neck was what Isaac said to Esau.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Unrequited Love

I received the darkest and most troubling message over the course of the night.

A man who suspects his girlfriend of cheating on him wrote to me detailing how he planned to ruin her life and then kill her.

He didn't ask for counsel or prayer

It was not a hoax or prank message

He included her full name, address, and screenshots of WhatsApp messages and text exchanges between his girlfriend and the person he suspects her of cheating on him with, and also two videos of his personal investigations into the cheating saga.

He said his girlfriend is a nurse and that he was responsible for her training for the past nine years. He said the person she is cheating on him with is a doctor with whom his girlfriend had been planning to relocate out of America to Canada.

He said a lot, and I am convinced he is hurt beyond what one could simply ignore or tell him to get over it.

Dealing with the intense pain of betrayal, especially by a lover or a spouse, is not a walk in the park. Our pain threshold differs, and what one could walk away from might kill another with heartache.

Pain is also very personal. The more we feel we have been made a fool of and our vulnerability taken advantage of, the more intense the pain will be.

Imagine the young man saying that his girlfriend told him several times to drive her to an address where she was supposed to be doing home care giving for an elderly woman.

He would drive her there and sit in the car for three to four hours until she was done, and then drive her back home because the place is located in a very remote area of the city.
He later found out that she goes there to sleep with one of her lovers, whom she connected with on OnlyFans (she never told him she had an account or did anything like that), and in the chat he read, she referred to him as "My Uber Man"

He said it was the most humiliating experience for him.

Pain does funny things to our reasoning. It blurs the lines of reality and tunnels our vision in one direction, at the exclusion of all our options.
It makes us feel that unless we get even or "revenge", we cannot have closure.

This is a lie.

There is no man or woman in this world who love cannot make a fool of.

It is the prerogative of love to turn good friends to sworn enemies, the strong to a weakling, the rich to a bumbling fool, and the powerful into a blabber.

Was it not love that made Paris steal Helen away from Troy, leading to a colossal war? Was it not love that turned Solomon into a child in the hand of Makeda, the Queen of Ethiopia

Love is both a pain and a joy in all its expressions. A child you are taking delight in as he or she takes his or her first steps is the same child you are very much afraid might get hurt in the process of walking.

We learn to take what comes to us in the name of love with gratitude.

The lady cheating on this man would have her own story to tell.
She might not know any better, or she might have been hurt by someone else and unable to deal with the hurt the right way, or she might have decided to hurt another person in return.

Unless one talks to her, one cannot really tell what she was struggling with and why she has made the choices that put a target on her back

I spoke with the man extensively until he calmed down

I reached out to his girlfriend, and we talked for some time

She agreed to refund him the full cost of her tuition and the credit card debt he dug himself into, while doing everything to care for her

She said he was never her type, she told him so right from the beginning, but he was like a lost puppy who thought it had found its owner

He stayed with her, and when he offered to sponsor her to the USA so that she could study nursing and make money, she took the offer

She said he had proposed to her several times, but she turned him down because deep down she knew she could never marry him

She admitted that while she was with him, she was at the same time effectively searching for someone worthy of her love, someone she would love enough to settle down with

She said that after she found the person, she tried to leave the relationship, but her boyfriend started blackmailing her with threats that he would kill her and kill himself

She said he was too obsessed with her, and his love for her was almost cultic and fetishistic. She said she had always felt like he was mentally unstable and dealing with some deep trauma, with the way he craved affection, attention, and placed himself in places where it was obvious that he was not wanted

She said she would be happy to repay him, provided he would leave her alone and never contact her again.

I was happy the issue was resolved.

Officially, the two of them are no longer together.

He said he would have preferred to have her than anything in this world.

I told him it is not a good thing for any man or woman to desire or love someone who does not love him or her back

Unrequited love burns like fire and can only be cured by true love.

PS: Learn to love yourself enough not to allow your feelings for another person to dehumanize you
If the love is burning with a passion that crosses the line of measure into obsession, it is unhealthy for you
There is no sense in loving someone until you lose your senses
If truth be told, the person you love that desperately will not love you back, because who wants to love a senseless person
Everything must be done in moderation, most especially love

-GSW-

[Babafemi Oluyemi @YoungFemo_]

Testimony

I reached out several months ago because i was drowning in debt and all my business ventures were sinking into the mire. You prayed for me at the Flight event and asked me and two others to come outside and we ran from one end of the hall to the other….

[Babafemi Oluyemi @YoungFemo_]

Worship, impartation, and prophetic service - that's what The Flight is all about! 💫
Don't miss it on April 25th.

House7, Plot 2/3 Kudirat Abiola Way, First Bank Bus Stop, Oregun, Lagos.

#TheFlightLagos4.0

[GSWMI Elders Fellowship @GSWMIEldersF]

GSWMI Agape Elders, Awe, Oyo town. Our food and cash distribution to 70 elders took place on 24th January 2026. See our Elders looking fabulous in their ankara. Thank you Jesus for making us a blessing to many. God bless you @Lara_MKing @AdeksDayo and the team. Gloooorryy to God!

[GSWMI Elders Fellowship @GSWMIEldersF]

GSWMI Agape Elders Christmas party,food and cash distribution in Awe, Oyo st Saturday 20th December. God bless you Agape team @lara_mking @AdeksDayo. Thank you Lord for an amazing year of service to Agape Elders. Father, we thank You for grace to go again next year. Glory to God!

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The Call is Personal

Have you ever considered this?
The current monarchical head of England is a King and He has a Queen.
King Charles and Queen Camilla

The last monarchical head of England was a Queen but her husband was not a King.
He was a Duke.

Why?

The blood must lead the nation and if the blood is in the female, she is the head of the nation while she is also the wife of her own husband.

You cannot use marriage to take the crown from her.

In the same vein, if God called your wife into ministry, you are not the one God has called into ministry
You don’t become Daddy GO because God called your wife into ministry.

You are her husband in the context of marriage but you are not the Head of her ministry because you married her.
If you choose to be a part of her ministry, you can serve and support her in any capacity you choose apart from acting as if your marital position gave you the right to become the Head of the ministry God has given to her.

Men get this easily and in most cases you see them steer clear of the limelight when their wife is the one in a position of power.

When people elect a woman as governor or deputy governor or Senator or local government chairmen, you don’t see the husband of such a woman occupying the office of the first man or office of the husband of the First Lady.

The issue has always been with women who simply won’t separate their wifely duty from their husband’s achievements or calling.

A man is called to lead a church, wife wants to be “Mummy GO” or pastor’s wife. She does not want to serve as a member of the church whose duty is to support her husband at home and raise the children.
Especially in today’s mom and pop Pentecostal churches.
“His calling is OUR calling but my calling is my calling” is the female’s position and that position is very wrong!

The Baptist, Anglican, Catholic, Methodist, African and other orthodox denominations do not have this issue.
They have structures that help to keep sanity in the rank and file of the church

The Pentecostal churches have to correct this anomaly.
Many of their pastor’s spouses are not qualified to lead people and yet they give them offices simply because of their husband’s position.

I don’t know Joyce Mayer’s husband; I don’t know Paula White’s husband, I don’t know Mama Agbala Daniel’s husband, I don’t know Esther Ajayi’s husband.
Why do I know Pastor Iluyomade’s wife?
(As an example).
She is his wife and her actions should have no bearing on her husband’s calling and ministry.
She will not give account on the day of judgement for her husband’s ministry
She is his wife and the mother of his children.
And yet….
We see the effect of her action on her husband’s ministry and how it led them out of their position of influence in RCCG in the last few years.

If you are a pastor’s wife, you are his wife.
If you are a pastor’s husband, you are her husband.
There is no office or position of influence/leadership for you in the church based on who you got married to.

This does not mean you cannot become a pastor in your own right by going through the process and obtaining the right training but it is not a position you should get simply by warming his or her bed.

So many ministries have been ruined because those who didn’t know receive divine instructions from God and to whom the Word did not come are taking up positions of authority and influence in the church by the flesh.
They say the two had become one flesh(this is only true within the context of marriage).

Outside of marriage, the one God has called must lead and the sheep of the pasture God has given him, including his wife must follow.

Husband died and wife becomes Head of Ministry or Bishop of Ministry is not the way to go.
That we see these lopsided arrangements all around us does not make them godly or right.

The calling God is not a joke and those who dare to make a joke of it usually go the way of Jeroboam over the course of time.

Please remember this.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Your Spirit Man and The Holy Spirit

Once you have Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour, you automatically get the Holy Spirit too!
This way, your spirit is sealed in its illumination!
Remember that the presence of the Holy Spirit in the book of Genesis, from Chapter 1, enabled the creation of the world?
In the same way, the Holy Spirit in the life of a new believer begins to set things in order!
He separates the believer from every work of darkness, old habits, old friends, and old sins are eliminated from every believer's lifestyle! The believer becomes thirsty for the things of God
He or she longs for righteousness, peace, joy, and more of the Kingdom of heaven on earth!
The spirit in man and the Holy Spirit become one! According to the scriptures
1 Corinthians 6:17 New King James Version (NKJV)
17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
In essence, immediately you receive the Lord Jesus into your heart, the Holy Spirit takes over the affairs of your spirit, and he sets you on a path of the kingdom on your heart!
He changes your desires, your utterances, your hobbies, your habits, your lifestyle, your mindset, your culture, and every other thing!
You are now saved, sanctified, and justified!
A bona fide citizen of Zion
Just like Jesus was before His baptism!
The Bible made it very clear that Jesus was the son of God right from his birth, and He was full of the Holy Spirit

Matthew 1: 18 This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged in marriage to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with Child through the Holy Spirit.
Jesus was conceived through the Holy Spirit
Through the Holy Spirit, Jesus was also able to work miracles and make disciples

But after His Baptism, according to Luke 3: 21-23
When all the people were being baptized, Jesus was baptized too. And as He was praying, heaven was opened, 22 and the Holy Spirit descended on Him in a bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven: “You are My beloved Son; in You I am well pleased.” 23 Jesus Himself was about thirty years old when He began His ministry.
Something dramatic happened!

Even though Jesus had the Holy Spirit in him from the womb, the heaven opened and the Holy Spirit descended on him bodily (like a dove in movement) the Holy Spirit is not a dove! The Holy Spirit is a person! His form is that of a human! Just like your human spirit is just your shape and form so is the Holy Spirit!
The scripture here only described how the form moved as it descended on him BODILY!

Note also that Jesus had already been baptized when the heaven opened! The scripture says "As Jesus was praying, the Holy Spirit descended on him in a bodily form like a dove followed by a voice from heaven!
Please note the following
1)Jesus was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit
2) Jesus was never without the Holy Spirit all his life
3) John the Baptist (Also born full of the Holy Spirit) confirmed the superiority of the life and purpose of Jesus to the world

NOTE: John Testifies About Jesus
29 The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him and said, “Look, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world! 30 This is the one I meant when I said, ‘A man who comes after me has surpassed me because he was before me.’ 31 I myself did not know him, but the reason I came baptizing with water was that he might be revealed to Israel.”
32 Then John gave this testimony: “I saw the Spirit come down from heaven as a dove and remain on him. 33 And I myself did not know him, but the one who sent me to baptize with water told me, ‘The man on whom you see the Spirit come down and remain is the one who will baptize with the Holy Spirit.’ 34 I have seen and I testify that this is God’s Chosen One.”

4) JESUS while praying after his baptism received the Holy Spirit bodily!
5)After Jesus received the Holy Spirit bodily, he began his ministry in earnest!
Jesus also breathed on his disciples and gave them the Holy Spirit...
John 20: 21 Again Jesus said to them, “Peace be with you. As the Father has sent Me, so also I am sending you.” 22 When He had said this, He breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit.
But afterwards he told them to wait for the endument of power from above!
Wait for the Holy Spirit
Acts 1: 4-8
4And, being assembled together with them, commanded them that they should not depart from Jerusalem, but wait for the promise of the Father, which, saith he, ye have heard of me. 5For John truly baptized with water; but ye shall be baptized with the Holy Ghost not many days hence.
The Ascension
(Mark 16:19-20; Luke 24:50-53)
6When they therefore were come together, they asked of him, saying, Lord, wilt thou at this time restore again the kingdom to Israel? 7And he said unto them, It is not for you to know the times or the seasons, which the Father hath put in his own power. 8But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.
They were promised POWER after the Holy Ghost is come upon then and then they can produce results in ministry!

We can do ministry with the person of the Holy Spirit and our will power
We can also do ministry with the person of the Holy Spirit and the Power of the Holy Spirit
To get the power of the Holy Spirit, we must ask for it and begin to pray in other tongues!
The secret behind the light of a believer shinning brighter and brighter in a dark world is the power of the Holy Spirit!
The power of the Holy Spirit is like a generator that ensures that the light you got from Jesus upon your salvation continues to shine so much that it also lights up other people through you in the name of Jesus, healing them of their infirmities bringing them bringing them the full salvation package in the name of Jesus!
You need the Holy Spirit!
Not only the person of the Holy Spirit that lighted you up when you came to Christ, but the power of the Holy Spirit that keeps your light shining brighter and brighter every day to the glory of God the father!
Pray in the Holy Ghost now!

Not only the person of the Holy Spirit that lighted you up when you came to Christ but the power of the Holy Spirit that keeps your light shinning brighter and brighter everyday to the glory of God the Father!ice, in a crusade, healing the sick, raising the dead, commanding situations and circumstances, stilling storms, calming winds, paralyzing demons and curing the incurable
See yourself walking about your locality like Jesus, pay attention to those you have seen on wheelchairs, blind, lame, the maimed and infirm in your community and ministering to these people! See yourself with your family members and friends, those you know their cases and issues and you have been desiring change for, lay hands on them and bless them! Heal their bodies, heal their souls, heal their spirits!
Those that are unsaved, lay your hands on them and command them to be saved! See the light permeating them body soul and spirit!
Pray on the Holy Ghost and begin to decree by the stirring of the Holy Spirit!
Make sure this exercise lasts for at least one hour

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The Interloper's Treatment

There is always that one babe with deep and serious insecurity issues
She does not have any idea of what she is worth on her own
The only way she measures herself is by how much a man has done for another woman whom she considers her rival, equal, or contemporary in her life.
She would usually be on her own until she hears the gist, from one of her friends or colleagues that a man dated a lady and flew her to London
Then she hears that the man also took the same lady shopping in Paris and to spend Christmas in New York.
The more she hears juicy details of how generous the man was towards a particular lady, the more she desires the same man
Once she heard that the man and the lady he had been doing all these things for had broken up, she would instantly queue up to take the man for herself
She would plot, scheme, and do anything to get the man's attention and become his girlfriend
When she gets into the man's life, she would expect the man to automatically open up his wallet and start spending money on her the same way he spent money on the previous lady
Most of the time, the man would not do this
She would wonder why
"I have heard reports of how generous he is.
I was told he bought "so and so" Gucci bags and took her on luxurious trips, and so on, but he is not treating me to the same bouquet of goodies he treated her to
Why?"
She gets frustrated by the day as the same man takes her to third-rate hotels, restaurants, shops, and cinemas, and literally acts as if she were the kind of babe to hide from his world and not to be displayed and celebrated as he treated the other lady
She waits for him to recover from his heartbreak and pain of losing the other lady, believing that he had kept her away from his world and his wallet because he was heartbroken, and she was just playing the role of heart nurse to him at that moment.
Days will roll into months, and there will be no improvement
One day, she would voice out her frustrations
"But you flew so and so to Monaco, you took so and so to the grand prix, you went to the fashion show in Paris with so and so, and you bought her stuff for more than such and such amount!
And yet you sleep with me, and all I ask for is for you to pay my visa fee, and you are reluctant
I asked that you take me to Kigali or even Ghana, but you refused
I asked that you buy me Kampala or even Adire, and you wouldn't
"Is it because I am doing a good girl for you?"
Because you men always like the ladies who would be unreasonable and wicked to you
What does your ex-girlfriend, who broke your heart, have that made you do all that for her that I don't have?
I only asked that you lend me three million naira for my proof of funds so that I can get a UK visa, and you have refused to send it to me, but with so and so, you wrote a letter of sponsorship for her in your company name and went with her to the embassy for her interview.
What is she offering you that I am not? Why have you been this mean to me?
You have not given me as much as one percent of the trips and pleasures you offered to the person who broke your heart for free, and I have been working hard here trying to please you
I even watch videos to do better with the way I serve you sex whenever you want it
When you said her blowjob game was out of this world, I took a course on it so that I could take you places with my mouth
For all my efforts, I am barely getting an E treatment from you, and you always gave her an A treatment. Why is this?
The man will not be able to tell her that he does not love her
She came to him as a warm body that he could close his eyes and sleep with while imagining he was with the one who broke his heart
He feels nothing for her
She could as well be a sexbot or an effigy as far as he was concerned
He wouldn't be able to tell her directly that all her efforts were impressive, but the one who broke his heart didn't even need to lift a finger for his heart to start singing.
He wouldn't be able to tell her that she does not make his heart sing; all she was doing at the moment was to help him heal from his heartbreak and get over the weakness in his heart, which could have made him crawl back to the one who broke his heart.
And for that, he had been generous and kind to her as much as he felt she deserved.
He would just coast along with her until he had fully recovered, and then he would ease her out of his life.
He would collect everything he had lent her and make sure the relationship ended in as transactional a manner as possible
At a point, she would be saying, "I am not a "runs girl", I am not a booty call, I am not a lady of the night, and I am getting the feeling that this is how you are treating me".
He didn't want to treat her that way, but he couldn't help it.
She came into her life to play a role, and after playing the role, she needed to move on
He has healed, and he needed to fly again
She had become a yoke around his neck, and that yoke needed to be broken for him to be free
She, on the other hand, would not see things this way.
She would feel used, ill-treated, and unappreciated.
She would feel she had sacrificed her time and energy for someone who had refused to match her energy
She would feel heartbroken and bereft.
Then she would feel scorned.
The next thing she would do is withdraw to lick her wounds, and then she would begin to boil with rage and the pains of her heartbreak
She then gets on her WhatsApp status and starts typing a lot of things
From there, she finds her way to social media
She writes about John Doe or uses the term "some people," or tells the story of someone who lied to her and deceived her and used her
Some of her friends will see her posts and use this as an avenue to fish for information
She would spill as much as she could in the name of talking to her support system
The more she speaks, the more emoldened she becomes
She comes to believe she was a victim
How dare a man who slept with her give her peanuts while the lady he slept with before her got jewelries
She would totally forget the fact that the way he felt about both of them was different, and this informed how he treated the two of them.

PS: There is always more to a story when you hear it from the right perspective

-GSW=