Being a good person does not guarantee a good life.
Morality does not provide immunity from disease, poverty, betrayal, accidents, injustice, or tragedy. Good people can suffer terribly, while terrible people can prosper.
I genuinely rate mature friendships.
The kind that stay strong even when days and months pass without talking. Friendships built on values, trust, respect, and real understanding.
The kind that do not need daily calls and buying of asoebi to prove care. Friends who are fine with your individuality and the kind of friendship you have to offer, not the ones who want you change for them but never want to change for you.
The kind of friends who cherish the rare moments they meet. And where all the parties involved know that no matter what life brings, be it good times or hard time, they continue to stand by each other with love, support, and loyalty.
Itâs a quite hard but itâs a worthy find.
Before you marry anyone, ensure you agree on these simple things.
(Extended list)
âAC or fan
âOnion in food or no onion
âSlippers indoors or barefoot
âLights on or off at night
âClothed in bed or not clothed in bed
âFresh meal daily or refrigerated food allowed
âBlanket or not
âClosed or open toilet seat
âLoud or soft Music
âHard or soft Eba
âSwallow at night or not
âSpicy food or no spicy food
âToothpaste pressed from below or from anywhere.
âWho sleeps close to the wall or socket.
âPet or not. If yes, which pet?
âYour money is my money or not
âHigh libido or low libido
âHoney or sugar
âFitness lifestyle or not
âNetflix Subtitle or no subtitle
Clean as we go or Weekend deep clean
âHouse help or no house help
âJoint account or separate account
âPublic affection or keep it private
âSleep cuddled or sleep apart
âDrink water from cup or bottle
âEat at the dinning table or eat anywhere
âSocial media couple or Private lifestyle
âWhich protein more often? Chicken, fish, beef, turkey, goat meat or others?.
âFart openly or fart privately
âClean shaved or bushy underneath
âRelatives living with you or not at all
âTraditional gender roles or shared roles
âLoud home or quiet home
âThese small things are not childish. They are the daily and practical realities of your life together. If you cannot agree, or at least negotiate on them, you will live in daily friction and fights disguised as marriage.
âSo, before you walk down the aisle, sit down and ask each other these uncomfortable but practical questions. Because at the end of the day, marriage isnât lived in the wedding pictures, it is lived in the tiny, ordinary moments no one else sees.
â iamdennisagbeti