Could You Handle Your Dream Today?
Suppose everything you've been praying and working for arrived tomorrow.
Could you manage it?
Could you sustain it?
Would you have the discipline, character and wisdom required to keep it?
Sometimes the delay is not punishment.
SOMETIMES THE ROOTS ARE STILL GROWING.
Think about it.๐ค
Some of you donโt love your husbands. You love the provision. The moment he can no longer provide, heโs no longer worthy of your love, patience or respect.
Youโre no better than the man who only loves his wife while sheโs young, beautiful and can cook.
When he routinely dances with death like this to put food on the table, he will still be a bad husband if he does not know his wife's medical history, or forgets her birthday.
I did both customary and statutory weddings. So, it means that I am legally bound to marry only one wife unless we divorce.
But from what I have seen of these Gen Zs, I won't fault any man who insists that he's not going to have a statutory wedding.
Stand your ground.
End.
Something just happened. The newspaper vendor that supplies the dailies to my neighbour walked up to me and said he had been looking to see me but I was unavailable. In my head, I was wondering "why me?"
He said he needed the balance of his son's fees in Yabatech. I asked him how much it was and gave him double so he could use the balance to take care of himself. He was just praying for me in Yoruba.
This is the pressure men are going through. Outsiders are not going to ask "what about his mother" or "what about your wife." You as the man is just expected to stand up to the responsibility. If you're my friend, I will ask because I don't even hide my stance of joint responsibility.
Anyway, the point I'm driving home is, if all the educational opportunities, scholarship, STEM support are going to the girl child, what is the fate of the boys? In extension, how are we neglecting boys and still expect them to carry the responsibilities as "man of the house?" Interestingly, the successful women still want a more successful man in a world where women are becoming more educated and successful.
This will tip the balance of society. More men are increasingly unmarried. More women are increasingly unmarried. More men are increasingly unable to meet their financial responsibility where more women have occupied the work force and even more if them are unwilling to share the financial responsibilities.
This is not a for or against post. I just want to see how society functions in 50 years time. Anyway, women said staying at home is harder than going to work. So maybe the men are choosing the "harder" job of staying at home. Interesting days lie ahead ๐คทโโ๏ธ
This is a billionaire who is 10 times richer than her partner - look at her mindset.
But Nkiruka will be tying wrapper with palmoil stain & double railway tracks at 2pm.
๐ณ๐ฌ foolish men & their komodo dragons will use "marry first" to whine you that this is asking for too much.
Lemme burst your brain
The only reason a woman won't cheat on you is cause she has so much respect for her body
It has nothing to do with being loyal to a man
Privilege is such an interesting thing I often find myself thinking about. We do not ask for the life we have, and that is why I'm very mindful of it. You often find it a lot in my writing.
Last week, my cleaner told me on Monday(2 days ago) was her birthday. I asked her what age we are celebrating and she said 33. Epiphany hit me that my agemate is my cleaner. I wore a wry smile as I nodded my head and told her to remind me on Monday so she could get her gift.
I then went to my room to deal with the epiphany of privilege. In another universe, that could easily have been me.