why does everyone act like assuming good things is delusional but assuming bad things is just "being realistic" both are assumptions. Neither is proven. you might as well pick the one that actually benefits you. Like???
a while ago i was turned down by a gorgeous man. he said his main reason was that i looked too much like a younger version of his mom. it was chill. we remained friends. no big deal at all. today we were hanging out and i asked if i could see a picture of his mom and... YEAH LMAO