I used to believe that understanding someone's pain was enough reason to tolerate the pain they caused me. So I stayed patient, made excuses and convinced myself that compassion meant enduring what hurt. But eventually I realised that I was carrying burdens of my own and I never used them as permission to be careless with other people's hearts. And I think the hardest lesson was realising that kindness should help me understand someone's actions, not convince me to accept what I would never do to someone else.
Stop allowing people to have control over your peace. They didn’t call? Get some rest. They didn’t text back? Put your phone away and enjoy your day. They left you on read? Keep moving forward. They didn’t make an effort? Give the same energy you receive. Never let your happiness depend on someone else’s attention, consistency, or presence.
Respecting your partner is deeper than just staying faithful. Respecting your partner means to also respect their voice and allow them to be heard. Respect is communication. Respect is avoiding the same mistakes or things you know will make your partner mad/sad. Respecting your partner is thinking before you speak. Respecting your partner is being their number one fan. Respect is sometimes 'just' an attempt to understand. Respect is empathy. Respect is effort. Respect is love.
Everybody wants to be in a relationship for years but everybody is not ready for the the bad days, the crying, arguments, communication going wrong. Relationships aren’t fairytales & it’s not easy. If you love each other, you have to stay solid through it all and make it work.
It is crazy how a single moment of misunderstanding can become so toxic that it makes you forget the thousands of lovely moments you have spent together with someone. Anger has a terrible way of rewriting history.
If you’re in a good relationship with someone who treats you well but clearly has shortcomings and those shortcomings aren’t any form of abuse, then stay and make it work.
Relationships are about unlearning, relearning and compromise. You’re not going to find a perfect person out there because they don’t exist.
There’s absolutely nothing on the streets.
one of the most painful realizations is understanding that you were giving someone the benefit of the doubt while they were giving you the bare minimum
To someone who's single, enjoy your season of waiting. Nothing is wrong with you. It is not just your time yet. Take your time & love yourself. It's a season of investing in your younger years, to reach your biggest dreams, and travel the world. Don't force love to happen.