the fear of asking for what you want in your relationship can also stem from a fear of vulnerability. you don’t want them to know how much emotional power they have over you. if that’s how you feel toward them — why are you with them? what is a relationship without vulnerability?
when i tell you that the genuine love you give will eventually come back to you, believe me, because i spent so many years loving like this, only to finally receive it in the same language when i met him :’)
A Bedouin came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I love horses. Will there be horses in Paradise?”
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “If you are ...