Have you ever had the opportunity to speak to the narcissist’s ex, the victim who came before you or after you and compared your stories to one another of the abuse endured by the narcissist?
Think back when you first began dating the narcissist, did they ever hint to you in any way that they have a mental illness by open up quickly, providing you too much information?
Ex: childhood trauma, sexual abuse, statements about their parents or “something is wrong with me”
When the narcissist secures, or are in the process of securing a new supply, you are only getting in their way and they don’t want to waste any more of their time on what they see as a “former relationship”.
You started enforcing your boundaries
You started pushing back on all of their devaluations
The narcissist just got bored with you and wants the excitement they think that they can get from someone new.
We think if we can get the narcissist to understand our feelings, or point of view, they will stop their hurtful behavior. Unfortunately, the person we fell in love with doesn’t exist, and our feelings and point of view don’t matter to them.
Even though we know deep down we don’t matter to the narcissist, we deny it. We want badly for things to improve and work out, because it was great in the beginning. We think the person in the beginning of the relationship we fell in love with will return if we are just patient.
If something on the inside is telling you that someone isn't right for you, they're NOT right for you, no matter how great they might look on paper. When it's right for you, you will know. And when it's not it's time to go.
You don’t know pain until you’re staring at yourself in the mirror with tears streaming down your face and you’re begging yourself to just hold on and be strong.
That is pain…
Wait? Whaat? 🧐
Sweetie, you just disagreed then agreed with me all in one reply lol. But I still love you! So how about we just agree you should not try to destroy the narcissist and just go no contact and move on. Game Over!
@AfterTheNarc I would respectfully disagree. You CAN and SHOULD compete with them. Just not in the way we think.
Always one up the narcissist. Never play their game. Make them play YOUR game.
It works.
@AfterTheNarc Every time I hear this I can't believe that after thirty years of having gone through this and realizing things were not right still hurts and still trying to pick myself up,thank you and I hope you get better
For those replying to my tweets with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am so loving your replies! Lol
A relationship between a NPD and BPD is a total nightmare and destined to be destroyed...
You will get angry, you will want to lash out and hurt them just as much or more as they have hurt you so they can “feel" what you “feel”. But here’s the thing.
No matter what you do, the narcissist will NEVER feel what you feel, they just can't!
It's unbelievable, unfathomable, what the narcissist did to you. Realize the truth and accept that it really did happen. You didn't imagine or read it wrong.
This really did happen to you.
😞...