GAP

An entrepreneur/Arsenal fan/realist.

[GAP @agptopzy]

If you make this for men.

Forget it. You are out of business before you even start.

[𝐒 𝐎 𝐑 𝐄 @wibsore]

You don't need to go to the gym 🤣

[Leandro Trossard @LTrossard]

To all the Arsenal fans, thank you for everything, from the bottom of my heart.

Once a Gunner, always a Gunner.

Leo

[🦉 🧘🏽‍♂️spiRituaL🧘🏽‍♂️ @spiRiituaL]

Health is the foundation every other success is built on.

Protect your health like your life depends on it.

[GAP @agptopzy]

@SovereignIM Just curious.

What if she was able to heal and be the wildcard. Who seek love and union. But due to the burden of responsibility at an early age could not settle down early.

Do you deem her marriageable ?

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

She is first deprived of protected daughterhood, is forced into premature functional adulthood, and then becomes exceptionally capable at producing stability, growth and meaning for others, whilst remaining unable to receive those things without fear.

Her parents do not primarily encounter her as a child with needs, but as a resource. The father’s treatment of her as a son is really the conscription of her into masculine-coded functions: endurance, competence, emotional containment, leadership, productivity and usefulness which forces her animus to develop early, because it has to. She learns that value comes from what she can carry, solve or survive, rather than simply being who she is.

This produces the first major paradox:

She becomes powerful precisely because she was not sufficiently nurtured or protected, but the power she developed to survive that deprivation later obstructs intimacy and thus rewarding deep emotional attachments, because loving and depending upon another person reactivates the vulnerable helplessness of childhood - the state she escaped by becoming hypercompetent, self-reliant and emotionally closed off.

[GAP @agptopzy]

If you vet someone enough and you find them worthy of your commitment.

You have to be with them in totality.

Covering their shame and weakness, staying strong for them in times of problem and being their cheerleader when they need one.

You just have to bear the burden that comes with choosing them.

[GAP @agptopzy]

If you vet someone enough and you find them worthy of your commitment.

You have to be with them in totality.

Covering their shame and weakness, staying strong for them in times of problem and being their cheerleader when they need one.

You just have to bear the burden that comes with choosing them.

[KHAN'✨ @khanofkhans11_]

This is too hilarious. Exes who behave like spiritual wives 😂

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Who says they are 'evil?'
Who says you shouldn't feel fondness for them?
Who says ruthlessness and affection are mutually exclusive?

You have learned the wrong lessons

[𝐈𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞 𝐊𝐥𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐠 @iamklausenburg]

Female "pick mes" are trying to overthrow men in this misogyny industry.

The things they tweet are beginning to seem more interesting.

Learn or learn the hard way.

[BSAT Properties @BSAT_Properties]

My candid advice:

Before you rush to China in a bid to start a business, go to the big markets in Nigeria. Markets like Balogun, Trade Fair, Onitsha Main Market, etc. and check the prices of the things you are going to buy and ship from China. Then see if that trip to China is really worth it.

China is the land of MOQ. When I say MOQ, I mean MOQs running into tens of thousands. I priced a particular bottle in China, and the MOQ was 10,000 pieces. The company was going to produce them for me at the rate of ₦200 each. Meanwhile, for an MOQ of 2,000 pieces, those same bottles were ₦650 each. So, I opted to buy 2,000 pieces.

Guess what? By the time the bottles got to Nigeria and I paid for shipping and clearing, they amounted to ₦1,100 each.

Now let me tell you the more interesting part. I entered the market in Nigeria and saw bottle suppliers selling those same bottles for ₦950 each. Meanwhile, I had tied down my money for four months, waiting for my shipment to arrive from China, only to stroll into the market and realise I had wasted my money and my time. I could have bought those bottles in Nigeria and turned over that money ten times within those four months.

I learned a hard lesson.

China is also the land of dup£s. They can do you the "more you look, the less you see." Except they know you are a customer who buys in hundreds of millions from them, they won't be scared to lose you.

You cannot be running your business with ₦20 million and people's pre-order money and hope to compete with the big importers in the market who are running the same business with over ₦500 million, people who open 40ft containers every two months.

The item that China will give to you for ₦5,000, China will give to them for ₦500 and still add hundreds of extras on top to entice them to keep coming back.

You can't go to ordinary stores in China to pick items and expect to make a profit. You need serious millions to access the actual manufacturers. Some of them will tell you to send them $100,000 before they can produce for you. Do you have it? 🤔

But guess what... Igbo traders in the market can make that transfer without blinking.

I will always advise that before you go to China and start stressing yourself buying market for people there, it is better to enter the big markets in Nigeria, patiently go round the market, even if it takes one week and look for importers you can buy from to resell or even dropship from.

It will save you the stress, cost you less money, and you may even make more profit than spending hundreds of thousands on a visa, paying exorbitant flight tickets to China, staying in hotels, spending money on food and drinks, only to buy an item for ₦5,000 in China that suppliers will give to you in Nigeria for ₦4,500.

My own is to give you people my candid advice. It's now left for you to take it or leave it.

But hey... don't let me deter you from going to dropship in China.

© Lolo Nneka Obani

[GAP @agptopzy]

@UnkleAyo They always want a story to milk attention. if there's none, they will definitely create one.

Media is a big thing in the British social system.

[BabaCave @baba_cave]

"Marriage is the number one destroyer of women worldwide."

"Women should avoid marriage at all costs".

Source: I go lie for you.

[Ken_ @cknze1]

Towards Reproduction (or why men have a "mumu button").

If we strip life of all its elaborate complexity,

Down to the bare bones,

What will we have left as the ultimate raison d’etre?

Reproduction.

Reproduction is the ULTIMATE evolutionary and biological imperative.

From this perspective, everything else begins to make sense.

For example, why do women who are apparently mediocre still carry an over-bloated sense of self-importance? (I am the table)

The answer is jarring: within the evolutionary grand scheme (reproduction), her being a woman is enough.

Imagine hypothetically, an ancestral tribe suddenly got raided, leaving a few survivors to repopulate,

The only relevant question that would be asked of the women isn’t:

Can you fight?

Can you build?

Are you smart?

Are you eloquent?

The only question that would be asked of her is:

Can you give birth?

This is all evolution requires of her at the most fundamental level, and nature front-loads her with this capacity at birth (her womb).

This is what is meant by, “A woman is born with value. And men must build their value.”

Why must men build their value?

Within that same ancestral logic, the questions that would be asked of the man would be radically different:

Can you fight?

Are you strong?

Can you build?

Can you provide?

These are what ensure the highest chance of survival for the children who will be born to the clan.

A man therefore gets no bonus points for merely existing as a boy if he does not morph into a capable man.

This natural asymmetry also determines how nature engineers the mating dance.

Why is it that, in matters of women, “men too mumu”?

This is not cosmic mistake.

A man can demonstrate incredible expertise and peak laser focus in multiple domains (this was needed for evolutionary survival),

And yet when it concerns a woman, he starts moving like a moron.

If a system is built to run with incredible precision in every other area save one, the area exempted is engineered design, not system glitch.

Why must men be dumbed down once women are involved? As before, the answer is Reproduction.

(ALWAYS start from reproduction and then build from there).

The threshold for activating a man’s “mumu button” also had to be incredibly low to boost reproductive chances.

If women needed to be smart, and graceful, and capable, to get men to desire and chase them, we would all go extinct.

So all a woman needs to do to be desirable and chased isn’t to be functional, but to be pretty (foremost fertility marker), and a man’s testosterone will do the rest.

That is to say, if the cost of reproduction could not be secured by female excellence (too risky),

Then it would be secured by means of a crafted weakness in men (testosterone).

Because reproduction MUST ABSOLUTELY HAPPEN.

The further reason that nature judges that men must bear this reproductive cost (the cost of coming together)

Is that the male reproductive resource (sperm) is in plentiful supply. And the female reproductive resource (eggs) is scarce.

In every market where resource is surplus, the system doesn’t guard it carefully, it spends it.

So in times of war? Send men.

Dangerous jobs? Send men.

Famine and pestilence? Women and children first.

(“women and children” was not a social construct but a codification by men of this evolutionary preference).

A tribe that loses 80% of its men can still recover within a generation.

A tribe that loses 80% of its women is functionally finished.

This is the ultimate red pill for men.

Within evolution’s grand plan (reproduction), you are the disposable sex.

Even the emotional weight of the relationship has to be foisted on you (be the bigger person, apologize for peace to reign, be a man) and rebranded as “honorable” and “masculine” because it is the necessary psychological training required to keep the disposable unit functional.

Evolution could not afford to have the cannon fodder grieving about the cost.

For while men bear the civilizational load bearing (adding elegance to existence, the “cherry on top”)

Women bear the reproductive load bearing (the very foundation of existence/survival itself)

As always,

The game is brutal, but fair.

[GAP @agptopzy]

@baba_cave Understanding human nature generally makes you more tolerant and empathetic.

Most people will tag you lukewarm, indecisive or even stupid for not acting in some certain ways. But, deep down you know even yourself you not flawless. So you allow some mistakes to fly.

[GAP @agptopzy]

Have noticed something.

First Sign of a single and lonely woman is excessively posting on WhatsApp status

A woman in a serious relationship with the right man don't post Excessively on social media.

[GAP @agptopzy]

@HandofArsenal We shouldn't fumble that guys deal..

[GAP @agptopzy]

@FabrizioRomano @SamiMokbel_BBC This will come back to hunt us. If Arsenal let this guy slip away.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

Often what you praise as stoic strength, is just emotional unavailability. It is a man who does not trust you with his emotional inner world constructing an impenetrable wall to ensure you cannot reach him. He does not wish to receive you. His express will is to keep you out.