i donโt have the capacity to react on something so ridiculous this early in the morning but yโall truly making it so hard not to. please if yโall have any ounce of respect for the individuals yโall are shipping, stop finding malice on people they care about outside of your own ship. you donโt know them to speak on their behalf. throwing baseless accusations and tryna ruin someoneโs reputation just because yโall create crazy scenarios in your head is beyond disgusting. some of yโall are just so embarrassing, truly. do yโall not have shame??? ๐ญ
Maturity is knowing the difference between an actual issue and something you simply chose to make an issue.
A little distance and a little less interpretation can save a lot of unnecessary trouble.
Also sometimes, nothing is wrong until we decide there must be something wrong.
set aside any ships rn. if you see the members the way the members see each other first. as families, as brothers. maybe these allegations u threw, u r throwing and will throw in the future to any of the member will not even cross your mind!
I understand why the word โonlyโ hurt so many people.
But I also hope we acknowledge that some of the things said in response have hurt him ten times more. Some of the posts Iโve seen are things no one, especially him, deserves to see and carry.
I understand the anger. I understand the disappointment. But if the day comes when we realize that he didnโt mean what we initially thought he meant, I hope we also have the courage to apologize with the same conviction we criticized him.
We are years older than him. Some of us are even a decade older.
When I was 22, I said things I didnโt mean. Even today, there are moments when my words donโt perfectly reflect my intentions. Thatโs part of being human.
I hope we give ourselves enough time to sit with our emotions before letting them define someone elseโs character.
He is human. He will make mistakes. He will say the wrong thing at times, just as all of us do.
And if we see him as family, as a son, or as someone we genuinely love, then our role isnโt just to celebrate him when he gets everything right. Itโs also to help him stand back up when he stumbles.
Thatโs what love should look like.
I just realized that one day, I can hopefully look you in the eyes and say that I did what I can to keep your happiness and not listen to those who assumed of your unhappiness.
And that I did not keep you from doing what you love and being with the people that you care for. And that I supported but did not dictate your life. And that your blood, sweat, and tears were for something and that I did not put my ego first before your wants and needs.
And when you wanted to win, I did not sabotage you nor did I hope for your downfall.
And that I did not believe in words not said by you but by others. When you said, you are happy, I believe it. When you said you worked hard for your dreams, I believe it. When you said you feel sorry towards others who hurt not because of you but because of what others did in your name, I believe it. I will never want to make you feel sorry for something I did.
And if you ever say you are unhappy, I will believe you. If you ever say you are tired, I will believe you.
And I can say that I did not do something that will make others turn away from you.
And even if I disagree with some of your decisions, I know they are yours to make and it is your life you are deciding for. My disagreements do not trump your happiness. And my disagreements will not lead towards wanting you to ever fail.
And best of all, I can say that I did not assume your feelings just to justify my ego.
You said to support you freely. And this is how I support you. I will not force others to see it my way nor will I dictate how they support you. But I will make sure I can always say, I supported you and did not ever cripple you, your dreams, your hard work, nor your heart.
So what I realized is, who can say the same when they look in the eyes?
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I just realized that one day, I can hopefully look you in the eyes and say that I did what I can to keep your happiness and not listen to those who assumed of your unhappiness.
And that I did not keep you from doing what you love and being with the people that you care for. And that I supported but did not dictate your life. And that your blood, sweat, and tears were for something and that I did not put my ego first before your wants and needs.
And when you wanted to win, I did not sabotage you nor did I hope for your downfall.
And that I did not believe in words not said by you but by others. When you said, you are happy, I believe it. When you said you worked hard for your dreams, I believe it. When you said you feel sorry towards others who hurt not because of you but because of what others did in your name, I believe it. I will never want to make you feel sorry for something I did.
And if you ever say you are unhappy, I will believe you. If you ever say you are tired, I will believe you.
And I can say that I did not do something that will make others turn away from you.
And even if I disagree with some of your decisions, I know they are yours to make and it is your life you are deciding for. My disagreements do not trump your happiness. And my disagreements will not lead towards wanting you to ever fail.
And best of all, I can say that I did not assume your feelings just to justify my ego.
You said to support you freely. And this is how I support you. I will not force others to see it my way nor will I dictate how they support you. But I will make sure I can always say, I supported you and did not ever cripple you, your dreams, your hard work, nor your heart.
So what I realized is, who can say the same when they look in the eyes?
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Putting on my courage hat*
So here is an unsolicited but more objective (as much as I can) take abt the production, creative insight, and personal sentiments from MY brain with numbers (kind of) for RTY and Ahof's comeback. <3
-a vv long thread