Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
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USA has introduced new travel restrictions that require Nigerians 🇳🇬 applying for B1/B2 visas to post bonds of up to $15,000.
You Hear Am... $15,000 Bond!
The payment does not guarantee visa issuance!
You Hear Again...Even With $15,000, Visa is Not Guaranteed!
Lastly, fees paid without the direction of a consular officer will not be refunded.
Immediately you post the $15,000 bond, It is Literally not Refundable!
The Good News is That Nigeria Christians will not pay the $15,000!
Congratulations!
@SaharaReporters@NIBSS_NG@cenbank, please when did an affidavit from the shariah court become nullified when treating or attending to the Nigerian masses requesting for modifications on their BVN?
Our people have started speaking out!
It’s now up to us to REPOST this so it reaches where it should.
These are Muslims standing on a mass grave of 22 Muslim travellers who were stopped and murdered by Christian youths in Plateau State.
Listen to the video, it’s in English.
Before anything in our lives, ISLAM comes first.
We are created by Allãh to practice Islam. Not to make money, eat, marry, produce children and die! We are created to worship Allah (practice Islam). Any other thing comes after the purpose of creation.
On this we live. On this we will return to our Lord, In sha Allah.
Date: 7th November, 2025
The Secretary,
Civil Defence, Correctional, Fire and Immigration Services Board (CDCFIB),
Abuja, Nigeria.
Subject: Complaint Regarding the Closure of the Online Examination Scheduling Portal
Dear Sir/Madam,
I wish to formally bring to your attention
communication clarifying the current status of the scheduling process.
Your prompt response to this matter will be highly appreciated.
Thank you for your attention and understanding.
@CDCFIBNG@cdcfib@FMINONigeria@ServicomOffice @FedMinOfJustice @FedMinOfYouthDe
Bro, i was forced to learn English language. I have been working for 14 years now - all in Hausa language, in and outside Nigeria. I’m still struggling to find a use for it!
Dear Director General, @officialnyscng
On behalf of all Muslims, I am writing to bring to your attention that changing a woman’s surname to her husband’s name after marriage in place of her father’s name is totally prohibited in Islam.
Islam forbids a woman from using anyone’s name as her father’s name. However, before a married woman is considered eligible to serve or be posted to the state where her husband resides, she is required to change her name on her NYSC discharge certificate something that is completely against Islamic teachings.
This is the second time I am writing to the NYSC management on this matter, yet nothing has changed.
Many married women have been denied the opportunity to serve because of this issue of name change. It is important to understand that this policy has prevented many women especially in the North from going for service, as their husbands neither allow them to serve in another state nor agree to have their names changed.
I believe everyone knows that every Nigerian has the right to religious freedom and protection of their faith and dignity but in this case, nothing has been done to uphold that right.
If a valid marriage certificate is provided, that should be enough. Alternatively, the NYSC can require such women to report in the state where their husbands reside for verification but forcing them to change their names is completely against Islamic law.
Therefore, I appeal to the Director-General of NYSC to look into this matter and make the necessary adjustments.
I also call on all senators, representatives, and northern leaders with influence to take this issue to the appropriate authorities for review.
Thank you.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullāhy wa barakatuh,
My name is Ummul Khulthum Sa’ad, a legal practitioner and serving corps member in the FCT. I’m reaching out to seek your support in addressing the challenges faced by Muslim sisters regarding dressing within the NYSC scheme.