Kalau mau tau cara menjilat yang baik dan benar ala politik Jawa, maka lihat cara Pram ke Prabowo saat peresmian LRT.
Mengundang Prabowo, kasih gratis 8 hari, kasih biaya 8 perak, tiap ngomong achievement pake bahasa “…. Di zaman bapak…”
Tujuannya buat minta pendanaan Danantara buat lanjutin LRT sampe beres.
Pram tau kapan harus menjilat dan untuk tujuan apa. You cant do this everytime unless mau dianggap sycophant wkwk.
Sayangnya kelihaian berpolitik ini ketutupan Teddy yang ngusir direktur LRT 🤣
se mindful mindfulnya si maudy ayunda masih lebih mindful pak prabowo, itu baru 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘪𝘬 final boss,
mau ada gempa, erupsi, karhutla, keracunan mbg dst, tetap tidak akan bergeming.
Sekadar mengingatkan aja kalau masalah dari beberapa jenis gangguan jiwa itu termasuk kesulitan dalam menyelesaikan masalah, regulasi emosi, bias negatif terhadap dunia, kepribadian eksentrik, hipersensitifitas dalam relasi, waspada berlebihan, perkembangan ego yang tidak sehat, serta segenap hal lain yang membuat mereka merasakan dan berpikir secara berbeda dengan kebanyakan orang.
Kalau pada peduli mental health awareness, termasuk mental health orang lain & bukan diri sendiri doang, yah harusnya paham bahwa ada perbedaan dan keunikan ini. Tentu, gak perlu selalu dimaklumi kalau sudah harmful. Tapi, gak perlu sampai distigma juga lah, apalagi kalau orangnya udah meninggal dan gak bakalan ngaruh ke hidupmu juga.
Gak usah ngerasa paling bermoral sendiri. Tanpa gangguan jiwa pun, kita juga bisa jadi lukai orang lain atau lakuin hal yang problematik koq. Ingat aja kalau masih sama2 manusia tempatnya salah dan cela, emang mau diperlakukan dan dikatain sampai segitunya pas berbuat salah? Apalagi ini situasinya masih ada yang lagi berduka, kalau gak bisa respect sama mendiang, yah minimal respect sama yang berduka, mikir enak gak tuh didengernya postinganmu.
Ini juga berlaku buat kita nahan penghakiman sama siapapun yang ditargetkan dalam postingan terakhir sih. Udah tau yang nulis punya potensi cara mikir dan berelasi berbeda dari kebanyakan orang, yah harusnya nahan diri dulu buat tidak ikutan penghakiman sendiri ke orang yang diasumsikan bermasalah dan berkontribusi ke kematiannya.
Kenapa harus pada reaktif menghakimi sih? Ketrigger karena merasa dulu ada di posisi yang kurang lebih serupa? Kebelet pengen terlihat lebih bermoral anti-bullying? Coba fokus sama pemulihan diri sendiri biar gak reaktif dan coba renungi bagaimana menggunakan kebaikan dalam situasi yang kamu gak paham detailnya alih2 ikutan punitif. Jangan sampai kepahitan masa lalu mu malah mengubah kamu menjadi orang yang sama dengan yang menyakitimu.
A reminder from Atomic Habits by James Clear:
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity. This is one reason why meaningful change does not require radical change. Small habits can make a meaningful difference by providing evidence of a new identity. And if a change is meaningful, it is actually big. That's the paradox of making small improvements.”
Funfact:
Ketika depresi, paksa mandi dan lamain durasi di dalam kamar mandi nya (bebersih smpe ngosek seluruh kamar mandi). Beres mandi, pake pakaian bagus dan parfum yg menenangkan, lalu bongkar isi lemari danrapihin daleman lemari serapih mungkin.
Tertanda, survivor.
aku unsubs Maudy beneran deh keknya, she's not spreading positivity anymore, she's just becoming tone deaf 🥲
kak masa kamu nulis puluhan-ratusan esai sampe lulus di Ivy League, pernah jadi volunteer juga kan, pernah kan ngeliat kondisi grass root itu kayak gimana?
trus kamu bilang karena hati mungilmu ga sanggup liat bad news yg lewat tiap hari kamu nutup jendelanya dan setelah aku nunggu 3 minggu dari waktu kamu upload video ini ternyata ga ada foll-up nya, yg mana aku harapkan cuman karena kamu memang exhausted aja, tapi kamu beneran tone deaf 🥲
kita juga kalo punya pilihan ya bakalan menjauh dari bad news, tp it's happening, that's reality, itu bukan sesuatu yg bisa kita pilih
justru dg mega platform dan capasity yg kamu punya kamu malah milih diam? kenapa? karena kamu takut kariermu kesenggol elite sekaligus masih mempertahankan market middle-low class-mu karena mereka generate engagement dan konsumsi produk mu juga?
kamu tuh literally jualan produk dg bahan dari pulau yg sangat terdampak dari brutalnya kebijakan pemerintah sekarang loh, kenapa gitu harus ngomong kek begini
borjuis² ini mungkin hanya akan ikutan teriak kalo akhirnya hidup mereka kesenggol secara langsung kali ya, tp mau rupiah naik sampe 25.000 pun dg income dan akumulasi kekayaan mereka skrg mereka masih bisa makan enak, makanya bisa milih mau buang bad news dari feed dan telinga mereka sementara orang² yg dia "ceramahin" buat filter bad news ya orang² yg ga punya pilihan juga
This is one of the reasons I don’t judge people, especially women in their 30s, simply because they are unmarried.
Being single in your 30s does not automatically mean you are difficult, badly behaved, unattractive, or lacking in character, despite what society often assumes. We hear things like, “Why is she this beautiful and still single in her 30s? Something must be wrong somewhere,” as though marriage is a measure of virtue and being unmarried is evidence of a defect.
Consider a woman who starts dating a man at 26 with every genuine intention of building a life with him. She invests two or three years of her life into that relationship, only for the man to deliberately sabotage it, not because she wasn’t a good partner or wasn’t marriage material, but simply because he never intended to marry her in the first place.
What exactly do you expect her to do? Immediately find another man, fall in love again, and start planning a wedding?
She may need time to grieve the relationship, heal from the disappointment, and eventually become emotionally available for someone else. By the time she is ready to try again, she may already be approaching or have entered her 30s.
And then another problem begins. The older she gets, the more pressure she faces to “settle down,” and desperation is something the wrong people know how to exploit. She may begin encountering men who recognize that she is under pressure and use that vulnerability to manipulate her, knowing she feels she has limited time and cannot afford another failed relationship.
This is why I think we should be much more careful about judging people based on their marital status.
If life had followed our original plans, many people would have been married before 30. But life does not always respect our timelines. Some relationships fail. Some people waste years with partners who were never serious. Some meet the wrong people repeatedly. Some simply haven’t met the right person yet.
And honestly, choosing a life partner in your 30s can be a particularly delicate process. You become more deliberate because the consequences of choosing badly feel heavier. In your 20s, you may have felt you had the luxury of starting over. In your 30s, you may still be able to start over, but you are often more conscious of what another failed relationship could cost you in time, emotional energy and opportunity.
Please. Kindly. Date someone who actually desires you.
Not someone who desires what you can give them. Not someone who desires the aesthetic of you. Not someone who desires the photo dumps, the status, the validation of being seen with you. Date someone who desires you. Your presence. Your mind. Your quiet. Your laughter. Your ordinary days.
Date someone who wants to experience the beauty of life with you. Someone who wants to cook with you, laugh with you, share a meal with you. Someone who wants to take a walk to the park, have a picnic, nature, sit in comfortable silence at home. Someone who wants to visit museums, zoos, evening strolls. Someone who wants to snack together, bathe together, simply be together. Not someone who is only interested in the performance of love. Not someone who uses you for aesthetic dates and curated content. Not someone who encourages you to be financially reckless, clubbing everyday or emotionally drained.
Date someone who genuinely loves you.
Someone who loves you on the ordinary days. Someone who loves you when you are not dressed up. Someone who loves you when you are tired, quiet, struggling. Someone who loves you not for how you look on their arm, but for how you feel in their heart.
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You have to fall in love with her in different versions. The young her, the tired her, the pregnant her, the ambitious her, the difficult her, the woman she becomes with time. That’s the real secret.
Las personas más inteligentes tienden a ser mejores produciendo contenido humorístico efectivo, que hace gracia.
El sexo también parece ser un factor diferenciador. Las personas tienden a encontrar más gracioso el humor creado por hombres, incluso cuando se evalúa a ciegas (sin conocer su sexo).
Además, quienes producen humor más efectivo tienden a tener un mayor número de parejas sexuales a lo largo de la vida y mayor éxito sexual en general.
La capacidad de generar humor efectivo actuaría como un indicador honesto de “fitness mental”. Producir material gracioso de calidad es cognitivamente costoso: requiere recuperación rápida de la memoria semántica, reconocimiento de incongruencias, integración en la memoria de trabajo, fluidez verbal…
El humor habría evolucionado, al menos en parte, como una señal fiable de calidad genética e intelectual, útil tanto en la selección sexual (las personas tienden a valorar el sentido del humor en posibles parejas) como en las interacciones sociales. Quienes logran ser graciosos de forma consistente están demostrando, de manera difícil de fingir, un alto nivel de capacidad cognitiva.
Major cheat code for life: Learn to delay your reaction. Anger, fear, and impulse will try to make you move fast. There's power in pausing. In the pause, you see clearly, you respond wisely, and you avoid decisions you’ll regret. Slow down to speed up.
Only a woman can write a scene like this bec this is exactly what women do in love and hope that men do for them. To be loved is to have someone listen to the song you mentioned, or watch a movie you like. Always the little things.
"the success you've been looking for is hidden in the work you've been avoiding". that quote is crazy because it applies to all forms of gains. financial, fitness, relationships. the life you want for yourself is literally waiting on you, you just have to put in the work first.
I just saw a post that said no one plays the victim louder than someone who has caused the damage and the chaos in the first place. You know the person, they created a problem, they crossed the boundary, they caused the hurt. And then the moment you finally responded to it, somehow you became the problem. Now they're telling everybody what you did, but somehow they forgot to mention everything that happened before you finally said this is enough and this is where mindset comes in. You have to stop believing that you need to correct every version of the story somebody tells about you because you'll drive yourself crazy. Trying to defend yourself to people who only heard one side of the story and to people who already know what they want to believe. You know what happened. The other person knows what happened. And sometimes that's going to have to be enough. Now, if you were wrong on your part, apologize. That's maturity. But don't take responsibility for somebody else's behavior because they're uncomfortable taking responsibility for themselves. Setting a boundary in response to someone's behavior does not make you the cause of the problem. Sometimes people will call your boundary disrespectful because they benefited from you not having one. Let them tell their story, you don't have to chase it down, you don't have to explain yourself to everybody, you don't have to enter every courtroom you were invited into. Your mindset has to become I know who I am, I know what happened and I'm gonna let my character speak louder than their version of the story. Sometimes the person creating the most noise is the person who's hoping nobody looks too close so they can see that they're the one who created the mess.
I once talked about how many people get tired of marriage because marriage is boring and many people can’t deal with boring. I got many backlash because “how dare you call marriage boring?” lol
You must understand that a beautiful life is a peaceful one, you don’t need something to always be happening for you to be ok, sometimes, just soak in the little things, live and enjoy the moment.
If you cannot just exist without something dramatic happening, staying married might be difficult