Message from an exhausted coach.
I fear the next decade will see the end of the traditional view of a “grassroots coach”. After 8 years of coaching a relatively successful Surrey Youth League side, as well as a coaching stint at local district level, I’ve decided to hang up my boots.
8 years ago coaching provided me with a purpose and a love for the game that I’d all but lost when I stopped playing 10 years earlier. I loved the session planning, the interaction with the new U7 kids, the teaching and learning, and also the added bonus of getting to know all of the new parents. But also, I was good at it, and it gave me a sense of pride in knowing I was having a positive influence over the kids I was coaching. Through either pure luck or some sort of coaching ability, we still have 5 boys who started in the same school class in reception, playing in the top tier of one of the most competitive grassroots leagues in the country 8 years later.
However, with a successful side comes ever more parental pressure exerted on coaches. I honestly don’t believe there’s a way now for a grassroots volunteer coach, to coach a high achieving side. A high achieving side often comes with parental pressures. Parents have been caught in a trap of believing the more money they pay for private coaches or “academies” the more demanding they can be. As time has gone on, they forget that the person giving up all of their time at grassroots, and trying to do what’s right for their child, isn't actually paid!
Getting paid may well have meant the parents moaning on the sidelines would have been tolerable, but I doubt it. The private conversations taking place behind your back between parents hatching plans, the secret trials taking place at other clubs, the parents putting down another child because said player is affecting their child’s game time. Suffice to say you need skin like a rhino to maintain being a grassroots football coach. Not only are you a football coach, at times you’re a role model, a father figure, a psychologist, a mediator, a salesman when it comes to sponsorship, it can consume your whole life. I used to believe that when parents said “we really appreciate what you do” they truly meant it. But as time goes on that sentence becomes “we really appreciate what you do, but….”
If it was just about the kids themselves and what happens on the field, it would be the most enjoyable role any volunteer could undertake. But unfortunately it is not. As someone who once loved coaching, even I’ve been drained by everything mentioned above.
The future of coaching will be under a more professional format. We’ve all seen these local private academies set up everywhere, often charging 2 or 3 times more than grassroots subs. They have the structures in place to deal with the demands that pushy parents put on them. This will only be accelerated with the introduction of the new 3v3 format. There simply isn’t the support out there now for the traditional grassroots coach who does it for the love of the game.
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