Aila Obiocha

I write about the best investments in Middle East stock markets.
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[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

In 2018, 91% of Saudi women did not practice any form of exercise per week. Nearly a decade later, and female gym membership has exploded 15% per year. Meet the sports company building on this trend, from Riyadh to Dammam, Tabuk to Jeddah.

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[Lincoln @flabbytofit99]

I've screwed up as a father more times than I can count.

But 10 years and 4 kids in, I've figured out what actually moves the needle.

Not theories from parenting books or what looks good on Instagram.

The stuff that quietly changes everything when you finally get serious about it.

SET THE EXAMPLE
Your kids are recording everything.

How you talk to their mom when you're frustrated. How you handle it when something goes wrong. Whether you spiral or whether you regroup.

They couldn't care less about your lectures.

They're watching how you live. That's the real education, whether you like it or not.

PLAY WITH THEM LIKE YOU MEAN IT
Not "supervise them while scrolling."

Get on the floor. Wrestle. Chase them around the house until you're both out of breath and someone's crying laughing.

This is how boys learn to roughhouse without it going sideways. This is how girls learn that dad is a safe place to be physical and loud and take up space.

One day they'll stop asking you to play. I've seen it happen with my oldest and it hit different than I expected.

Don't waste these years.

STOP TAKING IT PERSONALLY
"I hate you, Dad!"

They're 5. They have the emotional regulation of a golden retriever who just got told no.

Correct the behavior. Don't internalize the words. You're the adult in this situation — act like it.

MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS FIRST
Your kid doesn't have self-control yet...that's just where they are developmentally.

You do have self-control. Use it.

If you lose it every time they spill juice, they're learning: this is how adults handle problems. Stay calm. Not for them in the moment...they're not going to appreciate it in the moment.

But they will later

DISCIPLINE, THEN LET IT GO
They disobeyed. You handled it. Move on.

Don't bring it up at dinner. Don't remind them tomorrow. Don't hold a grudge against a 7-year-old...I've done this and it's embarrassing to admit but some of you know exactly what I mean.

Forgiveness isn't weakness. It's how they learn what grace actually looks like.

PAUSE BEFORE YOU REACT
One breath. That's it.

That's the difference between yelling something you can't take back and actually teaching something.

Most situations aren't as urgent as they feel in the half-second before you open your mouth.

Walk away if you need to. Come back regulated. There's no shame in it.

LET THEM STRUGGLE
This one's hard because it looks like you're not helping.

Let them tie their own shoes even when it takes forever. Let them fail at things. Let them face the natural consequence of leaving their water bottle at school for the fourth time.

Your job isn't to remove friction from their life. It's to teach them they're capable of handling friction. Those are completely different jobs.

MEAN WHAT YOU SAY
If you say no screens during the week, hold the line when they push back. And they will push back.

If you promise to play after work, do it when you're tired and don't feel like it.

Consistency is how you build respect. Broken promises are how you quietly teach them that your word doesn't mean much.

YOU CAN'T POUR FROM EMPTY
When you're out of shape, sleep-deprived, running on caffeine and resentment you have nothing left. Zero patience. Zero presence. Zero ability to stay calm when your kid melts down because you started singing Moana incorrectly.

Lift weights. Sleep enough. Eat actual food. This isn't selfish, it's maintenance on the only equipment you have for this job.

I still mess this up. Weekly. Sometimes I'll have a bad Tuesday and lose control.

But I've stopped trying to be a perfect father and started trying to be an intentional one.

That's a more honest target and it's actually achievable.

These kids are going to grow up and have a story about who their dad was. You're writing it right now, whether you're thinking about it or not.

[Josh Chambers @JoshChambers]

Michael Jordan says losing is not the opposite of winning, it is just another part of winning

“I hate losing. It’s not even a question. But I have to respect losing…”

“Because losing is a part of winning. You never just win. You’ve got to lose to win.”

“Losing is going to hurt… To a point where you look at… How can I do things different? How can I change? How can I make this team better?”

“Before you can look at someone else… You’ve got to look at yourself in the mirror. That’s how things get started. You’ve got to be willing to change.”

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@hedrees_ayinde 💯 In a company I worked for
The highest paid person was a divisional Finance Director. He earned more than his peers and the CFO. Let me tell you that man was neither “financing” nor “directing” anything.
You get what you negotiate.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@asemota “Adversity introduces a man to himself” - Einstein

“Hardship does not come to bury a man it comes to measure him” - Epictetus

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@Thugg_Speedman 🥹🥹

[Abubakar @IAtalkspace]

@OoTheNigerian The Nigerian stock market doesn't support the kind of instruments (especially derivatives) that the "world's most sophisticated traders" (hedge funds, quant shops, etc) use, unfortunately. No shorting, equity forwards, stock lending, etc. Plus, low liquidity.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@Ezugo144 @Mochievous You are welcome. Life happens all the time, and it will happen to each of us. 💜

[SightBringer @_The_Prophet__]

⚡️Marriage is one of the highest-leverage decisions in life because it controls the household operating system.

The person you marry affects your ambition, spending, risk tolerance, emotional stability, sleep, health, focus, social circle, children, legal exposure, time horizon, and daily energy.

That is the machinery underneath wealth, happiness, and destiny.

A good spouse compounds you.

They make life more stable, your judgment cleaner, your home calmer, your ambition safer to pursue, your risks more intelligent, your recovery faster, your children stronger, and your wealth harder to destroy.

They do not merely “support” you. They reduce entropy.

That is the word.

Entropy.

The wrong spouse increases entropy everywhere.

More drama. More spending. More insecurity. More emotional tax. More distraction. More status games. More resentment. More legal risk. More instability. More bad decisions made from stress. More years lost trying to manage a household that never becomes a base of power.

People underestimate that because they think marriage wealth destruction means divorce.

Divorce is only the visible explosion.

The deeper destruction happens before that: years of muted ambition, bad sleep, financial leakage, emotional chaos, compromised decisions, loss of confidence, loss of sexual polarity, loss of momentum, and a home that drains the person who is supposed to be building.

The right marriage is a private civilization.

The wrong marriage is a slow civil war.

Treating marriage like a cold spreadsheet is stupid and spiritually dead. But pretending marriage has no economic or strategic dimension is even dumber.

Love matters.

Attraction matters.

Loyalty matters.

Character matters.

But character and alignment are what make love durable under pressure.

A person can be beautiful, exciting, and emotionally intoxicating while still being a terrible partner for the life you are trying to build.

The real question is not “does this person make me feel something?”

The real question is: does this person multiply the life force, or consume it?

A great partner makes your whole field stronger. Money grows because the household has trust, discipline, shared direction, lower chaos, and a longer time horizon. Happiness grows because your nervous system has a real home. Children grow better because the foundation is coherent.

Marriage is leverage.

With the right person, leverage builds the kingdom.

With the wrong person, leverage magnifies the flaw until it owns the whole house.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@asemota Even better, use that money to create cashflow that stops the future drought of poverty. A liquid life is a joyful life. 💅

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@asemota @Calendly Feel better soon Big Chief 💜 We need the Calendly link reopened 👀

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@abingos2 @FinPlanKaluAja1 https://t.co/uPZSljkbDI

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@iamwalebanks “LUCK” = Labour Under Correct Knowledge

You sought the knowledge.
You laboured.
And Time and Seasons did the rest.

So yes you are “lucky”.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@WillManidis as an English speaker who’s learning Arabic
you are grossly overestimating current AI
maybe a future version of it will be good at this. maybe not .

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

and everyone "real" that has capacity to discern character can see through it all anyway. Are you competent, are you reliable, are you trustworthy, do you have good energy, can you tolerate/handle truth, have you shedded delusions enough to see clearly, are you on your mission.

[Grant Lannin @retirementkeys]

It is funny how dudes genuinely believe this from a conceptual POV

In reality people have no idea what you make, what your house or apartment looks like, or what you do. Even if you are pulling monstrous dollars, 99% of people aren't seeing your car/crib or are going to be able to discern what "i run a marketing agency" actually means. 99% can't discern anything anyway. So even if you have all 'the stuff' - basically nobody will see it, nobody cares, and it often has 'inverse effect' where people who you wouldn't care about liking you will like you - and everyone "real" that has capacity to discern character can see through it all anyway. Are you competent, are you reliable, are you trustworthy, do you have good energy, can you tolerate/handle truth, have you shedded delusions enough to see clearly, are you on your mission. That's the game.

All other stuff is completely fake. none of it is real. What's real is your character, your essence, how you manage your energy & yourself, who YOU are

If you're worried about WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU or WHAT THEY CARE ABOUT YOU HAVING, you are perma-cucked

game of 1

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

When Rob Kenney was 14, his dad sat all the kids down and told them he was done being a parent. He'd met someone new. The younger ones could move in with older siblings or get put in foster care. Then he walked out the door.

So Rob went to live with his big brother Rick, who was 23, just married, and squeezed into a small mobile home. There was no dad around to show him the basics, how to tie a tie, shave, jump-start a dead car, unclog a drain. He taught himself, slowly, getting it wrong plenty of times before he got it right.

Then 2020 hit. Everyone stuck inside during lockdown. Rob, a dad himself by now, set up a camera in his house and started filming those same lessons. He named the channel "Dad, How Do I?" Every video opens the same way: "Hey Kids." He figured maybe 30 or 40 people might watch. If it helped even one of them, he'd be happy.

His first video was how to tie a tie. He thought he was just teaching a knot. Instead, grown adults wrote in to say they sat there crying through the whole thing, because nobody had ever taught them, and watching a dad do it on a screen broke something open.

Someone shared his story on Twitter in May 2020 and called it the purest thing online. Within a week that post had around 2.3 million likes. His channel went from a few hundred subscribers to 1.85 million in two months.

Today "Dad, How Do I?" has more than 5 million subscribers. People mail Father's Day cards to a PO box he had to set up, because so many of them asked where to send one. He wrote a book passing on those same lessons, along with the advice he wishes someone had given him, and quit his day job to make the videos full time. The kid whose own dad walked out at 14 grew up to be the closest thing to a father that millions of people ever had.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@asemota People also confuse exposure with immersion.
Even if you live somewhere, if you isolate yourself / do not actively immerse yourself into the culture, you are still more of a tourist than a resident.

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@Han_Akamatsu Can you please reply my DM?

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@MGoodnessr @Shadesofsoso “The savage’s whole existence is public” — Ayn Rand

[Aila Obiocha @ailaobiocha]

@iamwalebanks “LUCK” = Labour Under Correct Knowledge

You sought the knowledge.
You laboured.
And Time and Seasons did the rest.

So yes you are “lucky”.