Aima Nisar

[Abu Khuzaymah @Kutubiyya_]

What people often forget is what you’re holding onto is not truly yours, it is something your heart has grown attached to, while the One who controls your heart between His Fingers is asking you to release it.

Know that when Allah removes something from you, it is not pure deprivation; rather, it is takhliyah (emptying) before tahliyah (adornment). He empties your hand so He may fill it, and empties your heart so it may be occupied by what is better and more lasting.

The pain you feel in letting go is the measure of your attachment to that said thing, not the value of what was lost. For had it truly been خير for you in its complete sense, it would have remained. But Allah, in His knowledge, saw that its absence is your protection and its replacement is your elevation.

So do not merely ask for it that thing to return, rather ask the One who took it to replace it for the better. For He does not take except to give, nor withhold except to grant something greater, either sooner or later.

And reflect: a heart that clings to the created will always taste loss, but a heart that clings to the Creator will find that every loss becomes a doorway to nearness.

So let it go for the sake of Allah, and watch how He returns to you what no attachment could ever secure

[PALESTINE ONLINE 🇵🇸 @OnlinePalEng]

Palestinians celebrate the arrival of Eid al-Fitr with lights and joy.

[Blond @BlondB00]

realising viscerally existentially wholeheartedly that continuously checking your phone will disrupt your capacity to deep-work and take anything seriously and that will rob you of your essence as a human being and keep you a shell of what you could’ve turned out to be.

[り @fhrtlzya]

" Peace be upon those who handpick their words, for fear of hurting anyone"

[shy fawkes @butterbooter]

life is enough for me. sometimes you fall asleep during the day with the window open and the curtains blowing softly to a faint breeze. you wake up to the sounds of your family laughing. there are people waiting for you. nice, slow things to do. it is a blessing to be alive

[victoria ♀️ @fatfabfeminist]

there’s something so special about nature consistently being on your side. the earth doing what it can to show them they’re not alone

[shy fawkes @butterbooter]

I keep saying: the crux of our religion is sincere & individualized human reason (avoiding disingenuous approaches), gratitude, & mindfulness. being in the world as much as you can while detaching from it. submitting to God & the inevitability of death

not the devil. not fear.

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

The desire to be known is one of the most replicated findings in all of psychology. And the research on what happens when you suppress it is brutal.

In 1995, psychologists Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary published a paper called “The Need to Belong.” It’s been cited over 21,000 times, which makes it one of the most referenced papers in the entire field. Their conclusion was blunt: the drive to form and maintain relationships is as basic to humans as food or shelter. Take that away, and people start to deteriorate. Thinking gets worse. Mood collapses. Health follows.

And the health part isn’t metaphorical. In 2010, a researcher named Julianne Holt-Lunstad at Brigham Young combined the results of 148 separate studies (a method called meta-analysis, basically the gold standard for settling scientific debates) and found that strong social connections increase your odds of survival by 50%. Her 2015 follow-up put hard numbers on the flip side: social isolation raises your risk of dying early by about 29%. Loneliness, by 26%. Those numbers land in the same range as obesity and physical inactivity. You’ve probably seen the “loneliness is like smoking 15 cigarettes a day” comparison. Holt-Lunstad herself has said that line oversimplifies her data, but the core finding holds.

Your body treats isolation like a threat. Chronic loneliness floods your system with cortisol (the hormone your body releases when it’s stressed). Stay in that state long enough and it triggers inflammation throughout your body, weakens your ability to fight off infections, and starts damaging the insulation around your nerve fibers, the coating that lets different parts of your brain talk to each other quickly. Lonely people show changes at the genetic level too: the genes responsible for fighting viruses become less active while the ones that drive inflammation become more active. In 2025, the WHO found that roughly 1 in 6 people worldwide experience loneliness and declared it a global public health priority.

Here’s the part I keep coming back to. The philosophical traditions this tweet vaguely waves at actually teach the opposite of what it’s claiming. Stoic apatheia (their term for freedom from destructive emotions) was never about pulling away from people. The Stoics taught that engaging with your community is central to living well. Same with Buddhism. Non-attachment doesn’t mean you stop caring about people. A 2010 study out of UC Davis built a psychological scale to measure non-attachment and found something that surprised even the researchers: people who scored highest on it had more compassion, more kindness, and better relationships. Less depression. Less anxiety. Non-attachment means you stop white-knuckling specific outcomes. You don’t stop loving people.

Maslow got here too, right at the end. Most people know his pyramid of human needs, the one that puts self-actualization (reaching your full individual potential) at the top. But in 1969, a year before he died, he quietly added a level above it: self-transcendence. He described it as moving past your own ego and identifying with all of humanity. The peak of human development, in Maslow’s final thinking, was deeper connection to everyone around you.

A 2025 study combining data from 26 separate studies and over 68,000 students found that programs designed to build a sense of belonging improved mental health for about 1 in every 3 people. Thirty years of research say wanting to be understood might be the thing keeping you alive.

[trout mask (original) @BranPuffin]

Culture is intimidating to those without any. May all these buildings survive

[gal౨ৎ @prtygal777]

I'm a fake pessimist I see tree branches in the wind and I want to live

[maddie rune🪰 @themaddierune]

Sometimes I look at my child & think, oh… you’re the very first person who will ever know the real me without my defenses. And you love me the exact way the earth loves the rain. Instinctively, without keeping score, without asking me to be anything but yours. And that love feels like a magical place I didn’t know I was allowed to rest. And the wildest part is how my children hand me mercy like it’s nothing, like it’s air, like it’s the most natural thing in the world. A child’s love is the first mirror that doesn’t distort you.

I’m saying all of this because this morning when my daughter woke up she told me she has been practicing make a heart with her hands in her dreams. Only so she could say good morning to me with a heart & a kiss. I instantly started to cry. Children love you in ways that make you rethink every cruel thing you’ve ever believed about yourself.

[shy fawkes @butterbooter]

a little good every day is better than a big good once in a while because littleness is just bigness spread evenly in rhythm, like nature; that which is harmonious

the way small waves will eat through rock you will work through your massive life. daily and like water

[The Resonance @Partisan_12]

An Iranian lights his cigarette on a burning Israel flag.

[mahrukh @parhloumahrukh]

why do Americans insist on saying eye-ran and eye raq, yet they can say Italy

[gal౨ৎ @prtygal777]

There’s beauty in everything even in pain.

[ؘ @billeitdoux]

I wish you a love that creates sun glitter. A love that feels so gentle like sunlight that caresses the ocean until it shimmers with every golden touch. A love that gives a feeling of being seen like the water that reflects the light's love, forming the glitter.

[• يمنى♡• @yumnah_elkhabir]

I love the line “the permission to be imperfect and still be loved” 🥺

[Mikael @mikael_jibril]

"No longer dragged by the world, only moved by God."

[shy fawkes @butterbooter]

what people don’t realize is that to write is to think. by outsourcing your writing you are outsourcing your thinking. you are paying for the degradation of your own mind. don’t use AI to “structure” your thoughts. structure them yourself. a shortcut to nowhere