I say this every time.
I need women to realise you aren’t special in the patriarchy.
The fact that you haven’t been assaulted yet, doesn’t mean other women did something wrong.
You are just LUCKY
Keep your problems smaller than your life. A flat tire is a flat tire. A bad meeting is a bad meeting. A canceled flight is just an extra two hours. These things become catastrophes when you let them. But they stay manageable when you remember the depth of your real life- the people you love, the work you care about, the beautiful years still ahead. Zoom out. Fit your reaction to the size of the problem.
So Rohingyas are forced to flee Myanmar because Myanmar does not recognise them as citizens.
What makes you think Malaysia should instead recognise them as Myanmari citizens and therefore as legitimate refugees?
As HR, let me leak a few workplace secrets:
1. Invest in your looks. Looking good won’t do the job for you, but it can open the door before you even speak.
2. Don’t fight feedback. The people who grow the fastest are usually the most coachable.
3. Make friends outside your department. One day you will need help from someone and you’ll be glad you’re not a stranger.
4. Don’t suffer in silence. Communicate your work, your progress, and your wins.
5. Document everything. Your memory is not as reliable as a screenshot or email trail.
Bonus tip: If you are not sure, ASK. The workplace has forgiven many questions but very few assumptions.
The problem with this fandom is they want their fave to INSTANTLY be Taylor’s coequal (and even has delusions of surpassing Taylor).
To be the “most successful woman in the industry”, you need to be *the* most successful artist OVERALL on the planet. To be able to match (or even surpass) Taylor, you would have to surpass:
- Billie, Sab, and Ariana (ALL her *current* peers, not just one, and not just in a specific metric)
- Bruno, Beyoncé, *and* The Weeknd
- Morgan, Harry, *and* BTS (the 500K debut territory on Billboard 200)
- Drake *and* Bad Bunny
- Adele
- 800K debut territory
- 1M debut territory (which Taylor has *long* surpassed)
- 2M debut territory
- 3M debut territory
- 4M debut territory
You would have to be the singularity, *the* biggest star alive, the industry-shaping, era-defining, needle-moving figure that Taylor is, just to be able to match her. And you would have to OUTDO that if you ever wish to become “the most”.
Instead, this fandom wants a shortcut and couldn’t even be bothered to go through all these ladder steps they’ve yet to climb and instead secretly wish that Taylor would just pass her crown and willingly hand over the keys to the kingdom, to let their fave absorb the astronomical chunk of the pie that Taylor has cultivated throughout her career, as if it were an inheritance that they can demand for their fave anytime they want.
Know your place and put in the work, ffs. The music industry is not a charity.
Awal bulan haritu ada seorang new joiner Gen Z ni join team kitorang.
Waktu dalam orientation kelmarin, boss ada mention "Kadang kat sini kena stay lama sikit untuk settlekan kerja"
New joiner ni terus respon "OT tu berbayar atau culture sini kerja sampai lewat?"
Semua terdiam
If someone at work tries to micromanage you, micromanage them back.
Send them too much feedback, ask them a lot of questions, do follow ups when they go quiet or even when you know they are busy don’t let them rest.
when Uthman (RA) stood by a grave, he would weep until his beard became wet with tears.
People asked him:
"You don't weep this much when Paradise or Hell is mentioned, but you do so at the grave .. why?"
He replied: ..