To @lotussmalaysia , I really hope this gets your attention. (LOTUS’S SELAYANG)
Today was supposed to be a normal grocery shopping trip with my wife, who is currently 38 weeks pregnant and could give birth at any time.
Instead, it turned into one of the most humiliating experiences we’ve ever had.
After we finished paying for our groceries, this staff member stopped us right outside the cashier.
Without introducing himself or explaining the situation properly, he looked at my wife and asked:
“Akak simpan barang apa tu dalam perut?”
Imagine hearing those words directed at your wife, who is heavily pregnant.
I was shocked. I immediately asked him, “Barang apa yang wife saya curi? Siapa yang nampak?”
Instead of showing any evidence, he said they wanted my wife’s Buku Pink as proof that she was pregnant.
That wasn’t enough.
They also wanted my wife to show her stomach to prove she wasn’t hiding stolen items.
Let that sink in.
A woman who is 38 weeks pregnant was being asked to prove her pregnancy because someone thought her baby bump looked suspicious.
At that moment, I completely lost my patience.
I told them if they were accusing someone of stealing, then they needed to provide proof, produce the witness, and call the supervisor immediately.
Instead, we were made to stand there for almost 20 minutes, surrounded by other shoppers, while they tried contacting their supervisor.
My wife was already exhausted from carrying our baby, and now she had to endure public embarrassment on top of that.
When the supervisor finally arrived, I insisted that the cashier who made the accusation come forward.
When I asked her directly:
“Bila awak nampak isteri saya ambil barang?”
Her answer shocked me.
She admitted she never actually saw my wife taking anything.
Her suspicion was simply because my wife’s stomach “didn’t look like a pregnant belly” and she thought it looked like someone hiding merchandise.
So there was no witness. No evidence. No stolen item. Only an assumption.
Eventually, she apologised to my wife.
The male staff member who confronted us remained silent until I took a step forward to punch him. Only then did he apologise.
Honestly, this isn’t even about the apology anymore.
It’s about the way my wife was treated.
She is carrying our first child. She is due to deliver any day now.
Throughout this pregnancy, I’ve done everything I can to protect her, reduce her stress, and make sure she’s comfortable.
Then, in a matter of minutes, two staff members made her feel like a criminal based solely on the appearance of her pregnant belly.
No pregnant woman deserves to go through this.
No customer should be publicly accused without evidence.
If you genuinely suspect theft, follow proper procedures professionally.
Don’t make assumptions.
Don’t ask a pregnant woman to expose her stomach.
Don’t ask for her medical records to prove she’s pregnant.
And definitely don’t embarrass innocent customers in front of everyone.
I sincerely hope Lotus’s looks into this incident seriously. This isn’t just about us.
It’s about making sure no other pregnant mother has to experience the same humiliation.
Please do better.
To that guy yang confront us in the beginning, I’d say it was your lucky day because the only reason I tak tumbuk you was to avoid any violence in front of my wife.
And for you cashier lady, why kau tak jadi doktor je?
Something i always remind myself is ‘ukur baju dekat badan sendiri’. I don’t believe in taking out loans or using BNPL just to afford things I can’t pay for upfront. Nak pulak beli benda FOMO. Jangan ajar diri suka berhutang nanti you just can’t stop.
Kenapa tak expose gambar bapak kau . Nak ruin hidup janda tu boleh . Expose sekali bapak kau . Sbb yg salah bapak kau dulu baru janda tu . Lelaki kalau tak layan janda tu tak melayan gak.
Suddenly remember my husb ask for date and i rejected him. Cian dia. But then i come to my sense sbb dia budak gym kot dulu. Sado ah laki aku dulu geram pulakk sekarang dah buyat.
Overlooked fact: every significant relationship in your life began with one moment of someone being slightly braver than the situation required. One person said the thing. Asked the question. Made the first move. Relationships don't start with mutual courage. They start with one person's excess courage.
So many people are out of touch sampaikan orang bergaji 3K at the age of 30 pun jadi isu. Orang yang umur 30 tak ada kerja tetap, makan gaji ikut hari pun ramai, inikan pula yang gaji ngam-ngam 3K atau below than that. Memang ingat semua orang umur 30 wajib bergaji 5K ke atas ke?
Dahulu kala walaupun dari segi definition bahasa betul, if bukan position c-suite takda lah nak panggil diri sendiri as "Banker".
Nowdays kerja as bank teller pun panggil diri Banker.
Fun Sunday. Celebrating Husna’s 2nd baby dan kenduri kesyukuran sbb berjaya tamatkan PhD. Terer betul belajar tgh busy2 phd pun boleh pergi bersalin. 🤣 tapi minah ni mmg kuat belajar time sekolah dulu jenis tenggelam dalam buku.