Women shouldn’t be expected to give up their surnames after marriage. In fact, it makes far more sense for children to carry their mother’s surname.
A father contributes 50% of the genetic material, but 100% of the pregnancy, risk, labour, birth, and early survival of the child comes from the mother’s body. Her health, her blood, her organs, her hormones, her literal life on the line. If anyone’s legacy deserves to be carried forward, it is the person who creates, grows, births, and often raises the child. A husband’s surname isn’t inherently more “family” than a wife’s. It’s just a patriarchal custom that treats men as lineage and women as vessels. We don’t have to keep repeating it.
"no means no" doesn't only apply to sex. it also applies when your friends say they don't want to drink anymore, when they say they don't feel comfortable with affection, when they say they don't smoke weed. respecting people's boundaries doesn't only mean when it comes to sex
i would rather be alone than feel consistently neglected or taken for granted. if i can treat myself better than you can treat me then what are we really doing here.