I’m good at telling the whole story. What you did, what part I played to prob make you feel a way. All tht, not just one side. I wish people was more like that.
a girl on tiktok said "if you wanted me to speak more highly of you then perhaps you should have treated me better...you don't get to narrate MY story of MY experiences with you". felt that.
To my 25 - 35 year olds, you have reached the age where people around you are starting to give up on themselves because they think it’s too late. don’t let that energy rub off on you. it’s not too late.
My grandma told me,
“Marry someone you can suffer with.”
I used to think that was sad.
Now I understand—
Love isn't who takes you to dinner.
It's who holds you when you're drowning.
And builds you a boat.
my mom once told me “accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others” and that shit is real.
You're not just grieving the person you lost.
You're grieving the person you thought they were—the one they pretended to be. It's like mourning a ghost.
Couples in healthy relationships also argue, have different opinions, feel frustrated, insecure and bored at times. Healthy doesn't mean perfect. What makes a relationship perfect is HOW you choose to move through those challenges TOGETHER.
I highly recommend you find yourself a clingy (healthy) lovey dovey partner who’s super excited about you. Life is too short to spend it with someone who act like showing love is a chore.
i saw a quote that said “everyone loves you when you let everything slide, but the moment you start setting boundaries and holding people accountable, you become the one that’s difficult” and that’s real shit.