like yeah there are plenty of social norms for us autistics to learn, but a decent amount of the time, someone is dead set on being mad at you today and will take any path to get there
sometimes it's not a "neurotypical thing" and is actually a "person who needs an excuse to lash out at you" thing. sometimes there is no secret middle ground because sometimes the other person will be mad at you no matter what.
i sang "die" at karaoke and messed up 30% of the lyrics but 100% nailed the scream. except i don't think anyone else was a bt fan so it seemed like i screamed for no reason. whatever man.