Until someone comes with something better, the reclining umbrella shades at Masjid-Nabawi is the most amazing piece of architectural engineering I have ever seen.
Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
You lived long and lived well — a legacy countless will admire and emulate.
Go in peace, for your story shall live on.
As you lay to rest, an era has ended, but history will surely be kind to you, and shall tell your story to the generations of Nigerians yet unborn.
Calm in chaos, resolute in storms, and forever anchored in principle.
You were a leader who belonged to all, yet stood beholden to none.
You paid your dues — and bore the burdens of others with a quiet grace.
Austere in the midst of opulence, you chose simplicity over spectacle, and virtue over vanity.
Honesty wasn’t just your creed — it was your character, etched into every decision, every moment, and every memory you leave behind.
Your mission was clear, your assignment fulfilled.
You departed not with hidden wealth nor distant mansions, but with an incorruptible spirit, unblemished by power or privilege — a true embodiment of integrity.
A.K.A.N.N.I
(1942-2025)
O dabo, O digbose
Ma jokun, Ma jekolo
Oun ti won ba nje lajule orun
Ni ko ma ba won je
Adieu Baba Buhari
Now, I take myself off Twitter for a time of private mourning and reflection.
See you all in August.
God Bless Nigeria. Amen
This generation is utterly consumed by sex and has turned shameless self-exposure into a lifestyle. Our movies, books, music, and social media are saturated with vulgarity, leaving no room for depth or intellect.
SHIRK (Polytheism): The Gravest Sin in islam
Shirk is the most serious and unforgivable sin if not repented from before death.
It is the action of associating partners with Allah in His Lordship (Rububiyyah), His Worship (Uluhiyyah), or His Names and Attributes (Asma’ wa Sifat)
Yaa Allah duk yadda rayuwa zatayi tsada kasa mufi karfin buqatun mu na yau da kullum. Yaa Allah ka rufa mana asiri duniya da lahira. Yaa Allah ka raba mu da mummunan qaddara da talauci da bashi da rashin lafiya mai naaci da dariyan maqiya. Allah ka bamu zaman lafiya a kasarnan🤲🏽