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[John Piper @JohnPiper]

“Jesus awoke and rebuked the wind and the raging waves, and they ceased, and there was a calm.” Luke 8:24

Do you believe this?

If so, think it through.

Everything in your life changes.

Think it through.

[Jason Helmes @anymanfitness]

The life expectancy for men in the United States is 73.

Normal retirement age is 65.

Imagine working for 55 years only to have 8 brief freedom years marred by Western disease.

You MUST:

1. Invest and retire early
2. Stay in great shape

There's no other option, guys.

[Jason Helmes @anymanfitness]

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier

This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well.

The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes.

Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense.

A few key takeaways from the book:

A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes.

Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed.

We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient.

Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves.

We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children.

Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings.

You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy.

You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues.

You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person.

The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid).

One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it.

Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are.

Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting.

Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally.

The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household.

This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them.

But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian.

In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are.

Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves.

Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys.

Asking kids non-stop questions like:

- Have you thought about self harm?
- Have you thought about suicide?
- Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed?

Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world.

It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history.

There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there.

It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

[Bill Kerr @bill_kerrrrr]

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[Usman Rafiq @usmanrafiq_07]

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[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Most people like to look at relationship through the moments of bliss and that is one of the biggest problem with dating today. I know the baecation in Mykonos is lovely, the kiss in NIKE Art gallery is fine, the sex on the beach is great, the regular gifts is gracious, turning up every weekend is amazing - but that is hardly the stuff of commitment and frankly, not the crust of life either.

I also know that focusing on only the good times, more often than not, leaves people unprepared or incapable of dealing with downsides in life. Life loves dealing with delusions. I like to look at relationship through possible crisis. Everyone loves a good time and it is not rocket science to have a good time. I'm a realist to the core and I love logic. I know every relationship will be tested because that is life.

You could lose a job, business could crumble, you could suffer miscarriage, you could lose a child, you could lose a parent or sibling, you'll have job/plan that threatens proximity, you could fall sick, you could have financial crisis, you could have parenting issue, midlife crisis lies in wait, your chikd could have down syndrome, a well thought out and well invested goal could go up in smoke, even your success might mean more time away from the home you love and that cherishes you, you are going to have your own share of life's everyday frustration.

Peculiar to each person, any situation could break a relationship or shake its foundation because crisis means energy level will drop and your partner could struggle to keep up to their side of the deal in a committed relationship.

I've always answered the question before making commitment. If I am ready to go through any low with you, then I am convinced I love you. Love for me is not mere butterflies in the stomach. It is much easier to kiss on the Eiffle and baecation in Bali than to deal with a depressed partner. Celebrating the birth of a new born is easier than dealing with the loss of a parent or sibling. Comfort is easier to live with than financial crisis.

Before you go all religious and forbid them, be real with yourself. Even scripture says in Isa 43:2 that 'When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon you.'
When NOT If. It is a certainty. God didn't promise a trouble free life. He only promised you won't go through it alone and he will help you overcome.

I would rather avoid any of life's possible blows but that is wishful thinking. So in the event of a blow, I am always ready. I am not an anxious person. I understand the complexity that comes with life as it does with love. I want to be there in those lows as much as I want to pop champagne in your high. We don't "outgrow" partners here. This is something the older generation know better than us but we think they are lost. We are the ones living in delusion.

Ask yourself, if you're ready to go the distance with your partner. Are you with them for the good time or for all time? "For better, For Worse" is the most important part of the marriage vow. But with shared love and sincere kindness, you can pull through any storm together. Be grateful for your perfect intimacy and celebrate the good times but be ready to be strong in time of crisis. Some experiences will make you realize that there is a vacuum in your life only God can fill. The least you can do for your partner is keep the faith when theirs is gone.

The truth is, a life of love will have some thorns, but a life without love will have no roses.

[Bruno | Einstein of Marketing @bruno_nwogu]

Absolutely

It’s not uncommon to see one event produce opposite outcomes.

The differing points however comes from the stories and the conclusions they make about their events.

Because it doesn’t matter what happens to you.

What matters is the story you tell yourself.

E.g.
Guy A saw how his mum felt because she was in a polygamous relationship and decides not to be polygamous.

Guy B saw how his Dad loved it because he was polygamous and decides to take after his dad.

It doesn’t matter what happens to you.
What matters is the story you tell yourself.

Same situation
But different stories and conclusion therefore… different outcomes.

This is why the worst thing that can happen to you…is to take a the wrong lesson from a bad example.

Because at the end…

It doesn’t matter what happens to you.
What matters is the story (conclusion) you tell yourself.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

A guy that drinks and a guy that doesn't drink were asked what influenced their position with alcohol.

1st guy: My father was a drunkard. I looked at him and knew I didn't want that for me.

2nd guy: My father drinks so I naturally took after him.

A polygamous man and a monogamous man were asked why they took that path.

Poly: My dad was polygamous. I didn't want that for me.

Mono: My dad was polygamous.

Do you understand where I am going now?

Your parents having a beautiful/toxic relationship does not guarantee you'll have one too. Being loved at home or not, will not determine the fate of your relationship. You'll have to decide for yourself what kind of relationship you want. You can use your environment as a lesson or an example. The choice is yours. You accept the love you think you deserve.

This also applies to how you raise kids. You can decide to copy your environment because you like how you were raised or disregard it because you loathe it. It is always a choice. Environment gives exposure but you are solely responsible for your choices.

[MCU Short Clips @MCU_SHORT]

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@AliAbdaal Hope you win, Ali!!

[Joe Hart @josephkhart]

The purpose of building a routine is to become the person you want to be. Your routine needs to fit your needs and life, so put the time into figuring out what routines will set you up for success.

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#DcTakeCommand #TakeCommandBook
#DaleCarnegie #routine

[DogeDesigner @cb_doge]

"People get confused sometimes they think an economy is money. Money is a database for exchange of goods & services. Money doesn't have power in & of itself. The actual economy is goods & services"

[Ali Abdaal @AliAbdaal]

1. Mindset 💭

It’s time to get away from the idea that focus is something that we either have or don’t have.

We should adopt a growth mindset instead:

Focus is something that we can all learn to develop and improve.