Not gay and not fruity. “Pegging” is also not fruity - it’s just sex. That term was born of ingrained misogyny/homophobia/transphobia. By establishing different vocab for hetero-oriented anal sex, it “others” sex between gay men. Aka “it doesn’t make ME gay!” reasons. (Con’t)
gender: he/him but in the way that people will see like, a raccoon or crow abscond with a snack or a trinket like "oh what's he got there? where's he goin??"