altheamom

Large family, homeschooling, small farm.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@HManderino @ThymeToBeBorn I’d be really interested to know why you feel differently than most eldest daughters! I’m the youngest of 3, but I did have to babysit my nephew every day after school (incl. bed time) and all summer starting at 12 bc my sister got pregnant. I don’t feel resentful either.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@mrsnightskyre @theemmacasey @ThymeToBeBorn My kids do a bit of everything, but the boys naturally lean toward the more laborious work while the girls tend to prefer housework. My girls can help build fences, use tools, etc. My boys can help cook and do dishes.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@VirgisViews @Bannef_ @ThymeToBeBorn They also have a terrible sense of time. Kids can spend hours in free time, but still complain about working hard all day because they did one hour total of chores. I have found I actually have to teach my kids that the daytime hours are for getting things done.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@janesue821 I’ve never used the full curriculum myself, but it seems that most people cut it down to what works. I feel bad that people are being kind of rude to her.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I know multiple families who use MP and they do fine with it even with a lot kids. I use their Latin & some of their literature studies so I know it’s a great program. Some families thrive with this kind of rigor and usually they customize it over time.

[the spice of life ❄️ @maternalgroyp]

Guys …. My daughter’s kindergarten homeschool curriculum has 43 books (manuals, workbooks, etc) as a part of it……..I want to kms

(no this doesn’t include the readaloud books that go with each days lesson either.)

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I am not the one to tell people that having a lot of kids is easy, but seeing people struggle with their two kids (sans disabilities) gives me a “you people can’t do anything” moment.

[GQ Magazine @GQMagazine]

"There is the ego death of becoming a parent (my child is now the most important thing in my life), and then there is the ego death of becoming the parent of two (I have not had a moment or thought of my own since dawn)."

Read as GQ's @zachbaron reports on the mind-altering chaos (and occasional brilliance) of life with two walking, talking young boys: https://t.co/xgmFvEkeQM

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@OctoAbbi @ThymeToBeBorn One time our septic pump broke on a holiday & we couldn’t get a single septic guy out. My husband was the one dealing with sewage in the south Louisiana July heat all day and tbh I’m fine with the daily cooking & cleaning because I don’t have to do massive sewage cleanup.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@OctoAbbi @ThymeToBeBorn I think this depends on lifestyle & husband differences. My husband is always doing something useful & we have a farm which means there is constant work. We all do morning and evening farm chores together and do house clean-ups together. The hard stuff is usually the guys though.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@Utterly_Jean I’d ask to see the curriculum list and extracurricular offerings. There’s a new classical charter school kind of near us, but they use iready math and their library of books is full of garbage. I’d probably choose based on curriculum, sports offerings, and teachers.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I hope to be an involved grandparent which is why I am forcing myself to lift and eat healthy. The crazy part about starting my family at 19 is that I will be 54 when my 8th child turns 18. Even if only 6 of my kids have 3 kids that still 18 grandkids. I’ll most likely have more.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@ThymeToBeBorn The boys must be taught to see other people’s needs while the girls must be taught to see other people’s contributions.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@ThymeToBeBorn Yea, your kids need to know that everyone is in the trenches together. We all work hard and the eldest daughter can’t see mom, dad, & son lounging while she does all the chores. OTOH, girls are more prone to see themselves as victims while boys are more prone to be thoughtless.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@HannahWardEdu No one needs to listen to newer moms give advice on parenting or education anyway.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I have Masses said for my family & friends for their birthdays and I highly recommend doing this for people. So many people need the reminder that someone loves them and wants good for them. This is a simple way to do good for someone.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@ThymeToBeBorn Sons will help do laborious work in the heat with no expectation of payment (except food), but eldest daughters will complain about putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher. I find it helpful to ask if they’d prefer the outdoor chores and the answer is usually no.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

During my postpartum times we ate a lot of store-bought rotisserie chicken, salad, canned baked beans, and fruit. It kept everyone alive and fed on a budget.

[Luka @LukaLev]

My response would be DoorDash every now then is fine if we both agree but to put us in financial strain because you want to spend more time setting up a camera for a performance while you’re showing me you’re actually cooking as an excuse to overspend is immature.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I saw a claim that gender-segregated schools don’t prepare students for “real life.” Most schools don’t mimic adult life & many jobs are gender-segregated anyway. If your kid fails at life I don’t think a normal private single-sex school is the issue.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@Brian_Peotter I live next door to Mississippi & my parents live there. I don’t recommend it for anyone with kids. Louisiana should be lower, too (I live here). Healthcare access in Mississippi is especially terrible. It is taking some of my family up to a year to see a doctor.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

I’m from New Orleans so hospitality is our thing, and it’s not hospitable to show up to someone’s house expecting to be fed last minute. Louisiana people would stop at Rouses on the way to your house to pick up food to feed you.

[altheamom @altheamom1]

@normonics It’s the Mass we go to because my son is the only altar server willing to serve on Saturday evenings. I’ve grown to love it.