OverThinking

Do not harm!

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

“Cada que vez que huyes agregas, cada vez que te quedas sustraes”.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

Sentir mejor y no sentirse mejor

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

La mente que juzga está tratando continuamente de gestionar las consecuencias de mi herida infantil. El verdadero coraje consiste en detener con intención esa gestión y sentir al niño herido.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

El primer y más esencial paso de compasión a mi mismo no es decirme cosas bonitas, es observar el impulso a juzgarme y no seguirlo.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

“La psicoterapia comienza a volverse estéril cuando la teoría reemplaza el temblor del encuentro”.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

“Hay terapeutas que saben tanto sobre la experiencia humana que hace años dejaron de tocarla”.

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“Cuando naces en una casa en llamas, crees que el mundo entero está ardiendo. Pero no es así.”
— Richard Kadrey

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

No necesito sentirme suficiente, pero en paz con mi insuficiencia.

No necesito dejar de sentir vergüenza, pero en paz con mi vergüenza.

No necesito dejar de sentir miedo, pero en paz con mi miedo.

No necesito amarme siempre,
pero en paz incluso cuando no puedo hacerlo.

[Leo @SpartanPsyche]

You’re clean, but your joy is gone. That’s not depression, that’s neurorepair. You spent years flooding your brain. Now it doesn’t know how to feel without chaos. You're not broken. You’re rewiring. Wait out the flatline. Effort brings color back.

[Joe Hudson @FU_joehudson]

The Frying Pan Principle: When you grab a hot frying pan, you don't deliberate.

You don't journal about it.
You don't make a 30-day plan.

You feel it, and drop it instantly.

Every bad habit in your life is a hot frying pan you're numb to. To change it, just feel the pain.

[Joe Hudson @FU_joehudson]

The older I get, the more I believe this: Every major breakthrough in my life, in some part, came from feeling something I'd spent years avoiding. Not thinking harder, trying harder, or applying a new system. Just letting the emotion I was running from finally land.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

Cualquier cosa lo suficientemente importante para dedicarle mi tiempo merece TODA mi atención.

[Leo @SpartanPsyche]

Addiction trains the mind to believe that inner discomfort must always be neutralized, and recovery begins when you realize that many sensations you tried to escape were never meant to be erased, only felt long enough to pass through you without leaving damage behind.

[Leo @SpartanPsyche]

Discipline feels heavy in the beginning because you are forcing the brain off autopilot, and autopilot is energy-efficient while change is expensive; keep the reps small and daily, because the fatigue is often the cost of building new pathways, not a sign you should stop.

[Leo @SpartanPsyche]

Cravings feel like emergencies because your brain predicts relief and floods you with urgency, but urgency is just a body signal that rises and falls; when it hits, change rooms, drink water, slow your breathing, and wait ten minutes, because riding the peak teaches your brain the cue no longer guarantees the reward.

[OverThinking @alvaro_thinking]

“Cuanto más lento, más aprisa” —Casiopea

[Leo @SpartanPsyche]

Relapse is usually a chain, not a moment, because you make small permissions that keep access open while telling yourself it is controlled; break the chain early with hard friction, like blocking, removing, or leaving the environment, because the earlier you act the cheaper the recovery is.

[Mateus — eu/acc 🇪🇺 @im_Mateus_]

Alan Watts on why trying harder is often the worst thing you can do.

Alan Watts identified a pattern that runs through the heart of Daoist and Zen philosophy, one he called the backwards law.

The idea is simple and deeply counterintuitive:

"When you would be strong, very often the best course is to be weak. When you would be powerful, the best course is often to withdraw."

Most of us are conditioned to believe that the path to any outcome is direct effort. Want connection? Pursue it. Want strength? Force it. Want happiness? Chase it.

But Watts argues that many of the things we most want in life are precisely the things we repel through our pursuit of them.

He uses solitude as the clearest illustration of this paradox:

"It's when you learn to love solitude that, paradoxically as it may seem, you are better able to get on with others."

The person who needs company who cannot sit alone, who craves connection and hunts for it is often the most difficult to be around. Their need fills the room. It creates pressure.

But the person who is genuinely comfortable with themselves? That ease is magnetic. They don't demand anything from the interaction. And so the connection forms naturally.

This is what Watts means by the backwards law. Contrary things come from unexpected directions. The outcome arrives not through the front door of direct effort, but through the side door of letting go.

[oxxana @hoxxana]

El secreto de la seducción es hacer que el otro se enamore de sí mismo.