Yes I’ll admit
That post about Caesarian section triggered me
Because I’m a woman who was in labour for 40 hours
I was given the maximum dose of oxytocin three times to induce labour and did not dilate beyond 2cm
I was so mentally prepared to push out a human but my body just wouldn’t
Which one should I talk about?
The intense pain ripping through me every few minutes?
Should I talk about how excruciating it is to have doctors check you for dilation while you’re actively in labour?
Should I talk about the exhaustion?
Should I talk about how that when those who have vaginal delivery have long forgotten CS moms are still grappling with wounds and pain and numbness and tingling from the anaesthetsia?
I had my baby in Canada and the nurses kept asking me if I wanted a pain relief
I did not want any drug to interfere
I was ready to bear the pain and I did
I think I have the most supportive husband in the world. He stood there every second with me. Holding my hand. Wincing as Pain coursed through me
But he did not feel the pain. Not the physical one.
I did.
So has every woman who has gone through this
When the doctors saw that my contractions were not the “good type”, they said I could get a uterine rupture, I had to be taken for a CS.
And everyday I’m grateful to God for the miracle of a CS
That a mother who has given her all can still have her baby and they both be fine
So sir, when you have had contractions for 40 hours
When you have had 7 layers of your body sliced open so you can bring forth children
When you have gone months nursing a wound that is layers deep
When you’ve been placed on a cold surgical table and cut 7 layers deep
For some 4 times.
Then come back and have this Conversation with me
Thank God for your mother and the long line of women in your family that had vaginal deliveries.
But no two women are the same.
Don’t put that burden on the woman you would marry.
A CS is not a shortcut
A CS does not make a woman weak
A CS does not happen because you did not pray enough or you’re unlucky
A CS is a medical miracle so that women like me especially pre term moms, can come out alive from the mystery that is pregnancy and childbirth
Blessings.
Now that everyone is an expert on curing pancreatic cancer in mice, not rats - I want to add some context that goes beyond the headline.
You will want to read this.
Cancer is cured in mice all the time.
Thousands of times. ~90% of those “cures” fail in humans.
Why?
Because mice are:
Genetically simpler.
Treated earlier.
Short-lived.
Not humans.
Mice are a filter - not a finish line.
Yes, this study matters. It comes from the Spanish National Cancer Research Centre.
Yes, it’s pancreatic cancer - one of the deadliest there is. Yes, full tumor regression is impressive.
But here’s what it actually means:
“This approach is now good enough to risk years, trials, and millions of euros on.”
Not:
“Cancer is solved.”
What happens next?
More animal work.
Toxicology.
Phase I (safety).
Phase II (maybe works).
Phase III (beats standard care?).
Maybe 8-10 years if everything goes right.
The real damage isn’t failed drugs.
It’s failed expectations.
Every “cured cancer in mice” headline trains the public to believe:
Cures are being hidden.
Progress should be fast.
Scientists are lying when reality hits.
That’s how trust erodes.
Bottom line:
This is how real cancer progress looks.
Messy. Slow. Risky. Incremental.
Not miracles.
Not conspiracies.
Just science - doing the hard work.
NIGERIA IS A MASSIVE CRIME SCENE.
For those who may not be aware,
I will share a little true-life story that will shock you to the bones about this money.
Actually the money found in this Lagos apartment in 2017 was not only 43million dollars. They also found £28,000 and 23million naira ALL IN CASH at the apartment. Yes, ALL IN CASH.
Guess who the owner of that apartment is? A former director of the NIA and former ambassador of Nigeria to commonwealth. A gentleman called Chief Ayo Oke.
By February 7, 2019; two years later after the money was found in his apartment, the Federal High Court in Lagos issued a warrant for the arrest of Chief Oke, former director general of the National Intelligence Agency (NIA), and his wife Folasade following an application by EFCC. Just before their court date, they reportedly left the country for “medical treatment”.
The EFCC then declared the couple wanted after their failure to respond to court summons. They were charged with the theft and laundering of staggering amounts of public money. One of the EFCC charges relates to roughly $43 million, £28 thousand, and ₦23 million—all in cash—that the EFCC found in this their Lagos apartment following the 2017 raid.
Another charge by the EFCC against th couple relates to $160 million that the couple allegedly diverted from the Nigerian federal government for their own use.
In 2017, after this scandalous discovery of money in his apartment, Chief Oke was suspended as director general of the NIA. The then Vice president of Nigeria, Professor Yemi Osinbajo headed a committee that investigated the incident and recommended to President Buhari that the director general be removed.
Till today, NOBODY knows what happened to that money and where that money is right now. As I said above, it was not just 43 million dollars found in that house. The also found £28,000 and 23 million Naira ALL in cash. In that same apartment. On that same day in April 2017.
Now for the icing on the cake:
Guess where Chief Ayodele Oke is now?
He is quietly back in the country after Tinubu freshly nominated him few weeks ago as an ambassador. Yes, the same man who fled the country and evaded the courts when suspicious millions of dollars was found in his apartment. He is now an ambassador representing our country before the international community.
And no, what you just read now is NOT fiction, it is not nollywood and it is not a wild imagination.
Every single detail I shared here is true.
You can google it and fact-check me.
Good morning: happy Sunday.
In 2026, people still say women who give birth through Caesarean Section did not give birth “naturally”, and are not real mothers. If you believe this, you need to watch this video.
To all mothers, through CS or not, you’re strong, you’re brave, and we celebrate you.
ICU doctor here.
I manage emergencies and critical cases daily.
Word of advice to the general public:
Wherever you live, find the nearest hospital with an ICU.
With functional ventilators and an intensivist available 24x7.
In an emergency, please rush to this ICU hospital.
What if there's a non-ICU hospital nearer than an ICU hospital?
Go today and find out:
How they manage emergencies,
If there's someone competent who can assess well and interpret ECG and put a tube in the patient's mouth and connect them to a ventilator,
and stabilise the patient before referring to a higher center.
If the above conditions are being met, remember to take them to this non-ICU hospital first, and make simultaneous arrangements to go to wherever they refer you to.
Amongst ICU hospitals, the preferable ones are those with:
Cathlab for treating heart attacks
CT scan to diagnose stroke and brain bleeds
Operation theatre for emergency surgeries
All the three together are not present in most hospitals.
And you won't be able to decide what the patient needs.
Therefore, summing it all up,
go to the nearest hospital where they can be assessed and managed by a competent ER or ICU doctor. And let them decide the further course of management.
This is the best you can do as a non-medical person to prepare for an emergency:
Having prior information on healthcare facilities around you.
PEPPER SOUP AND VAGINAL BIRTH.
Pepper soup restores warmth. But the womb restores itself not by pepper, but by contraction
Dear Chisom,
I know you mean well. Truly, I do. Because I, too, grew up hearing that pepper soup 'flushes out' the womb after childbirth...that the steam, the spice, and the sweat somehow persuade the body to release what it holds back. And perhaps, in a way, it does heal... not by science, but by sentiment.
But let us speak plainly and lovingly. Pepper soup will not squeeze out blood clots. Your uterus will if it is healthy.
After childbirth, the body performs one of its quiet miracles. It begins to cleanse itself, not through pepper or palm oil, but through a rhythm of its own a gentle shedding called Lochia. It begins red, turns brown, then pale, and finally stops like a sunset that knows when to rest.
If clots appear, something is amiss. Most times, it means the uterus has forgotten its duty... to contract, to stay firm, to protect. We call it uterine atony. And when that happens, blood pools where it should flow, forming clots that can steal a woman’s strength or her life.
This is why we, in medicine, watch carefully. We press the abdomen not to cause pain but to help the womb remember. We give oxytocin, or misoprostol, to whisper the message of contraction. We check for infection, for anaemia, for remnants the body couldn’t let go of on its own.
So yes, eat your pepper soup. Sip it slowly. Let it heal your body and remind you of home. But let it not replace the wisdom of care, or the science that saves.
Because culture comforts and medicine protects. And in the tender space where both meet, women survive.
We shouldn't do "open plan kitchens", simply because Americans are doing it.
Americans do not cook with ogili, they do not boil beans, they do not make akpu in their kitchens.
The worst part about the Benue killings isn’t just the bloodshed—
It’s the silence that follows.
No arrests. No justice. No plan.
Just mass graves… then forgotten.
Until the next massacre.
This country has normalised genocide.
If 100 cows were slaughtered anywhere in this country, we will have outrage from all quarters, visits by many governors and rightful condemnation everywhere.
But 100 human beings were massacred in Benue state 2 days ago and it is absolute silence everywhere.
Silence from the media.
Silence from the president.
Silence from almost everyone.
Why does the life of cows mean more than the life of a human being in this country?
WHY DOES HUMAN LIFE HAVE ZERO VALUE IN NIGERIA?
What kind of country is this?
VDM flew to Benue before Tinubu.
The Pope spoke about Benue before Tinubu.
How can 200 human beings be slaughtered and burnt to death in Benue- and the Pope who lives in Rome spoke about the victims before the president of Nigeria?
What kind of a lunatic leadership is this???
If I see or hear anyone compare an abroad Distinction with a Nigerian First Class, …
A Distinction abroad isn’t as rigorous as a Nigerian First Class. And I’m making this claim as someone who holds both a First-Class degree from a Nigerian public university and a Distinction from a U.S. public institution (My master’s was awarded with Distinction, and I completed my PhD coursework with a perfect 4.00/4.00 GPA at an R1 U.S. university.).
First, check the percentage of students who earn a Distinction abroad versus those who earn a First Class in Nigerian “public” universities.
For example: EBSU, Class of 2019. Out of 1,924 graduating students, only six of us earned a First Class, university-wide, across all campuses. Fact-check me (Ebonyi State University, 2019. Only six).
There’s no European or American university where only six students earn a Distinction at an annual graduation ceremony. None! They’re usually in the hundreds, if not thousands, every single semester.
You earned a Distinction in the UK or somewhere in Europe? Congratulations! But don’t ever use that as a yardstick to underrate a Nigerian First-Class degree.
When you hear that only a few persons or no one made First Class at a public university’s convocation in Nigeria, it simply means that the expectations for a First-Class CGPA are “TOO HIGH” and often beyond reach. In fact, as an undergrad, I could count up to 50 students in my class and cohort who would have easily graduated with Distinction if EBSU were a school in the UK or US. They were very, very intelligent guys but couldn’t meet the extremely high First-Class bar.
A 70/100 as an A grade may seem low-stakes until you actually try to achieve it. Nigerian professors are very tough graders. In fact, an average Nigerian university exam is set with two intentions: The primary intention is to make you fail, and the secondary intention is to test your knowledge. For a 3-hour exam, you’d spend most of the time trying to understand the questions, because, if you rush the questions, their first intention is automatically achieved. This explains why in Nigeria, “understanding a question is part of the answer.”
Our education system has its flaws just like any education system anywhere in the world. No system is perfect. But I will not sit back and watch anyone underrate a Nigerian First-Class degree. I have one and I know the intensity of the fire I went through to be among the only six who bagged it in my cohort.
Distinction wey “almost everybody” dey collect for abroad? Nigerian Third-Class graduates dey bag Distinction for abroad normally. Na bad government we get, don’t play with our education system. The rigor choke, and that’s part of the reasons why Nigerians excel everywhere they go.
A pregnant woman had cesarean section done yesterday and while taking care of the woman, the husband jokingly asked me to help check his blood pressure and gbam, 220/130.
Forgive me, but this is a joke.
A commission is set up to develop a region, and they turn around and pay themselves a salary?
These funds are seed capital; they aim to attract debt and equity financing to create a pool of funds to develop the region.
YOU DON'T USE SEED CAPITAL TO PAY SALARIES
As a Nigerian man, you can keep being in denial or you can accept the reality of our toxic culture.
Fundamentally some of us will have daughters, and this ugly bed we seem to be ignoring, is what our daughters will lie on too.