a lot of submissive men will say that dominant women don't want them, they don't find them attractive, they won't date them.
but i believe many times they will use submission as an excuse to be lazy. they think by being submissive they won't have to try, they will be told what to do and have someone to think for them.
being truly submissive is the opposite. it's about living to please someone, putting in effort, initiating things to make your partner's life easier. don't mistake those two.
leaving everything to your domme is not attractive, it's not sexy. it's exhausting and if we wanted to do that, we would get a child instead.
okay but are you going to be understanding if your dom is a little nervous and not as suave as you'd expect their first few times when domming you? are you going to make them feel comfortable enough to slip into the role without making them feel stupid about it?