Met someone today and realized you just can’t disregard a person just because they didn’t have a successful career. So many sharp, knowledgeable people nowhere close to their potential. Not because of lack of ability. But because life wasn’t kind to them.
honestly, gusto ko lang kumita ng pera. wala na akong pakialam sa career growth and whatnot. gusto ko lang ng pera. and mag-focus naman sa ibang parts ng life.
The most destructive piece of internet lore ever created is the phrase: "If they wanted to, they would."
It sounds empowering, but it is actually deeply narcissistic. It assumes that a person’s actions are dictated 100% by their desire for you, while completely ignoring their capacity.
A partner can desperately want to give you the world, but if they are fighting a silent financial war, battling burnout, or dealing with a health crisis, their capacity is at zero. Measuring a stressed partner's love strictly by their ability to "perform" is a lethal mistake. "If they wanted to, they would" is the fastest way to lose a fiercely loyal partner over a temporary lack of bandwidth.