If we date, don’t stop being you. Keep having fun, keep seeing your friends, keep chasing your goals, and keep enjoying your life. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. Just make sure you save time for us too.
Girls, please PICK THE GENTLE ONE. The kind one. The one who brings you peace. The protective one. The one who is sure of you. The one who respects you. The one who understands your silence.. The one who sees your heart without judgment. The one who holds your dreams with care.
for relationships to last you really gotta see your partner's point of view of things .and be considerate. And be willing to grow. people can learn from their mistakes it's all about communication.
your SPOUSE is the one who’ll sit beside you when your PARENTS DIE. who’ll hold your hand through CHILDBIRTH. who might have to BATHE YOU if you’re ever too sick to stand. this isn’t just about BUTTERFLIES or DATE NIGHTS. it’s about choosing someone who SHOWS UP... in GRIEF, in MESS, in UNCERTAINTY. so no, LOVE ALONE isn’t enough. COMMITMENT, MATURITY, and the ability to ENDURE life’s ugly parts... that’s what sustains a MARRIAGE. because when life gets PAINFULLY REAL, ROMANCE won’t carry you... CHARACTER will. and the truth is, FOREVER is only possible with someone who knows how to STAY when it’s HARD TO LOVE
My rules in a relationship:
1. Speak to me with kindness, especially when you’re upset.
2. Be consistent. I don’t thrive in confusion.
3. Communicate clearly. I shouldn’t have to decode you.
4. Respect my boundaries the first time I say them.
5. Effort should be natural, not something I beg for.
6. Protect my heart, don’t test how much I can endure.
7. Accountability over ego. Apologies should come with change.
8. Choose peace with me daily, not just when it’s convenient.
I love with grace, not desperation.
you really have to learn how to be okay by yourself. you have to learn how to calm yourself down, motivate yourself, wipe your tears away and make yourself happy.
people can love you and support you, but you still need to know how to stand by yourself.