I’ll speak from the HR side.
If a male colleague slaps your bum in the office, don’t slap him back.
I know the anger in that moment can make you want to react immediately, but please don’t let your reaction become the story.
Because once you slap him, insult him, or cause a scene, some workplaces will suddenly turn it into both of them had an issue or they were lovers.
And that is how the main offence starts getting diluted.
What I would advise is simple:
Leave that space immediately if you can.
Write down exactly what happened.
Time.
Place.
Who was there.
What he said.
What you said.
Then report it formally to HR or management.
And please, don’t let anybody tell you, That’s how he plays.
A man touching your body without your consent at work is sexual harassment.
I’ve seen cases where one woman’s report exposed that the same person had been doing similar things to other women quietly.
So sometimes, speaking up is not just for you.
It may also protect the next woman.
I love that all the girls are finally agreeing that when you live in the shame of what he’s done to you, you are doing him a favour and protecting his image.
Let it burn.
I hope you remember you heard it here first that Dangotes E and P ( not the name and a JV) will soon make its first crude evacuation. A story I am proudly fully part of.
My life today. We count down. Big win!
Woke up this morning, gas explosion at my aunt’s
Someone needs help with rent
Someone hasn’t eaten since yesterday
Someone is trying to sell me their generator they bought three months ago
Someone is offering to write for me for a small fee
Etc etc
God help us all
Where he is at right now is where I was in 2015, and that’s what pushed me to leave Nigeria. It was fuel scarcity, no light, no fuel, too much heat. I wan mad. The wild part is, if I had stayed in Nigeria, I would probably still be angry about the same issues 11 years later.
Your body has been whispering to you.
Not screaming. Not yet. Just whispering.
A symptom you keep ignoring.
A feeling you cannot explain.
Something that is not quite right but not quite wrong enough to do anything about.
What is your body whispering to you right now?
Type it. One line. No explanation needed.
Just last week I bought fuel at ₦1,250. Today, the same station is selling at ₦1,280.
What’s even more surprising is that many petrol stations are almost empty. You hardly see people buying fuel for their generators , even with the current power situation.
KAI!
@sugabelly Most of them genuinely hate women. I had a sexual harassment case at work once and the MD was defending this manager who was harassing a young female staff. He told me they were both adults and also, what was she wearing when she was harassed. This is a Deacon in a big church