There’s a Japanese saying that I love:
“If you feel like you’re losing everything, remember, trees lose their leaves every year, yet they still stand tall and wait for better days to come.”
I keep a rolling Notes doc called "Good things are always happening to me" and update it whenever I realize a good thing totally just happened to me. Good things are always happening to us.
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THINGS I DONT DEBATE WITH MEN :
1. Abortion
2. Breastfeeding
3. Menstruation
4. Female body hair
5. Birth Control
6. Access to feminine hygiene products
Why? Because NONE of those involve the male body & therefore don't create any valid MALE OPINIONS
Every freedom you have as a woman was earned through the sacrifice of women who came before you. You didn’t inherit these rights by luck. Someone marched, protested, and paid a price for them.
In 1998, I was fired from my corporate job while 9 months pregnant because and I quote, “my priorities would be elsewhere after the baby is born.”
The lawyer I hired told me I didn’t have a case because discrimination like “that” was almost impossible to prove.
So I got pissed.
Took the LSAT. Went to law school. Passed the bar. Had 3 more kids.
Twelve years later, another woman from that same company was fired for the same reason. She sued them for a million dollars, and won, partly because I had kept every piece of evidence from what happened to me years prior demonstrating a systemic pattern of discrimination against women.
That company no longer exists. My law practice is thriving. And that baby they said would derail my priorities? She’s a brilliant attorney now working at my firm.
Turns out my priorities were indeed, elsewhere.
my therapist changed my life when he taught me there are 4 types of conversation:
1) small talk (weather, etc)
2) swapping (you tell a story, I tell a story)
3) listening (you tell a story, I listen/validate)
4) problem-solving (you tell me a story, I help solve the problem)
every time you replace “this is hard” with “what’s the first step?” you shift brain activity from your amygdala (fear) to your prefrontal cortex (problem-solving).
that’s neuroplasticity in real time.
2025 feels like a year that i should pen down.
Came back from M11 at the end of 2024, feeling good and high because i survived a mission amidst of flying missiles in a war stricken country. And was so hard for hospital posting.