I will say this over and over again: being friendly and likeable and easy to work with is part of your job. If you see “being good at your job” and “being likeable” as two separate things, you’re missing the point.
The best analogy I’ve ever heard on this topic is to think about your work as having a “shape” that needs to fit together with your colleagues shapes to be worth anything.
The total area that your shapes cover is the value of your work
The job of fitting those shapes together falls to managers
If I have a team member who is very good at what they do but is awkward, difficult, and can’t get along with anyone, that’s like a big irregular, spiky shape. It takes a ton of work from other people to fit that shape into the rest of the org.
if I have someone who maybe doesn’t cover as much area, but their shape is a nice, regular rectangle that fits in with all the other rectangles around them, that’s a great team member
I’m legit excited about the reincarnation of Chi-Chi’s. I spent many a birthday dinner there, topped off with a celebratory fried ice cream treat!
I just hope they keep the chicken enchiladas from the rojo menu. Everything else can GTFO.