telling your brain "i know you don't wanna do the thing and it'll be very uncomfortable for you at first but you can do it buddy. it'll be fine" is actually surprisingly effective. it sounds too simple but that fuckass organ WILL listen to you if you treat it with kindness lol
𝗗𝗶𝗷𝗼 𝘂𝗻𝗮 𝘃𝗲𝘇 𝗧𝗼𝗺 𝗛𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗱: “Decidí probar un enero sin alcohol, solo como reto personal. Pero me asusté. No esperaba que fuera tan difícil. Me sorprendió lo mucho que dependía de una copa para relajarme, para celebrar, incluso para consolarme. Así que seguí en febrero, como un castigo, como una advertencia para mí mismo. Pero no fue más fácil, al contrario. Fue entonces cuando empecé a pensar: ‘Quizás tengo un problema’. A los seis meses, algo cambió. Dormía mejor, estaba más centrado, mi ansiedad bajó, mis relaciones se volvieron más auténticas. Para mi cumpleaños, decidí continuar un año entero, y ese año me enseñó quién soy sin la máscara del alcohol. Ahora lo tengo claro: no quiero volver a beber, porque me gusta este yo. Me gusta tener el control, sentirme libre, no tener que huir de mí mismo.”
Curiosity is stronger than love.
A reporter asked him, “How so?”
“I’m 94 years old, and I got married at 23.
But at 46, my wife left me.
She told me that she had become invisible now…
that I was working too much and I wasn’t paying enough attention to her anymore.
I told her that it wasn’t possible, that I loved her more than everything, and it was true but…
that’s when she asked me:
do you know when was the last time you came to see me play bridge?
I didn’t know how to answer, and she said…
‘It’s normal. You never came.’
And she left.
So I made a decision…
In the months that followed, I signed up for bridge lessons and…
I learned how to play, I practiced, I researched, and one day…
I saw there was going to be a tournament near our home. So I signed up and…
She was in the other team. I was seeing her for the first time in nearly a year…
Of course, she beat me.
But I saw a feeling in her eyes that I hadn’t seen for a long time.
Gratitude.
So at the end, I went to see her and I told her…
‘If you agree to give me a second chance, I’ll never miss any of your competitions again.’
I kept my word.
She passed away 8 years ago but…
She taught me the most precious of the lessons:
“Love isn’t enough, you have to know how to show it.”