Not a lot of people understand this... but you actually donโt have to have an opinion about everything. You donโt have to decide if something is good or bad.
Situations donโt have to be wrong, unfair, essential, deserved, or outrageous. The weather can just be the weather. The political situation can just be that political situation.
Marcus Aurelius says limiting the amount of opinions we have is one of the most powerful things we can do in life.
To say: โI donโt have an opinion on that.โ
To focus on the things in front of us that matter, or more importantly, that are in our control.
There is plenty there for us. Plenty to keep us busy, and not miserable.
Stop making things worse by whining and complaining.
Instead:
1. Focus on what you can learn
2. Endure what you canโt change
3. Look for opportunities to improve because of it
4. Embrace fate
6 time management techniques from Seneca:
1. Remember that you will die
2. Value your time more than your possessions
3. Be ruthless to things that don't matter
4. Realize what time off is for
5. Rest actively, not idly
6. Put your day up for review
Somehow I thought 'raw dogging' meant to improvise or ad-lib. The other day I used it in a convo with my boyfriend, he was confused and then told me it meant having sex without protection. I've been using it in work, in teams meetings, I am mortified.
Our culture rewards self sacrifice and self betrayal. The idea that itโs a good thing to put everyone elseโs needs first while you ignore your own. Itโs why so many of us are sick, unhappy, and emotionally repressed.
Our needs matter.